I've had my fair share of dating different personality type guys, and while i definitely don't stick around with the jerk, the one that makes me feel like a princess, that whole "I'm going to cater to you" attitude, was actually a turnoff! A lot of girls I've read on here are all about finding the sweet guys etc etc, but maybe it's just my type, cause they don't attract me at all?
Are any other girls feeling me, or am I going to be the unfortunate one to end up in an abusive relationship..?
2007-01-10 20:15:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a girl, but I think I know why you feel that way. You find them to be too boring. They're trying too hard to please you. The guys who ignore you make you feel like they're too good to be waiting around for you to like them. (That includes jerks.) That makes you want them even more, because you think "hey, this guy must be good because he thinks he can do better . . . I'd better treat him REALLY WELL!" When you understand this, you might find nice guys more attractive. If you don't, well, you are probably going to end up dating criminals.
I know you probably think that nice guys can't stand up for themselves, that they're not confident, or whatever. If they aren't confident, it's because they've been rejected quite a bit in the past for being "too nice." But you have to remember that they're TRAINED to act that way THEIR WHOLE LIVES. Just look at any romance movie, and you're likely to see some guy doing absurd things to try to please a woman, even though she shows almost no signs of interest. The guys in movies are bad role models, because in real life men need to know when to accept that the woman isn't interested and move on.
Good night!
2007-01-10 20:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not @ all. I'm a girl and I feel you all the way. I don't want an agressive mean jerk but at the same time...some time the guys who are too sweet are too clingy and pressing on you too hard. I've had both types personally. The clinginess and too much focus is a turnoff because you wonder if they really want you or just want to be in a relationship desperately. Don't get me wrong, being sweet is a great thing, but a balance should be found because a sweet man should still be a "man." So no...you're not wierd and I totally feel you.
2007-01-10 20:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by msmith4950@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you mean.
I am the "good girl" and I can't stand the guys that are TOO charming and almost push-overs. I like a guy that can stick up for himself yet still be romantic and a best friend. I just don't like the guy that caters to EVERYthing. That's just insane and over the top, he's not my servant.
SO, yah I agree!
2007-01-10 20:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes some Tim's its a turnoff to be extra sweet it's nice to be sweet don't get me wrong but some Tim's the girl love to have some kind else like the bad boy or the dangerous one its all different from a girl to another I'm a moody a girl so my partner have to get me really well to know what roll he have to play and honey your not alone.
2007-01-10 20:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's pretty much what all women think like. They get with the bad boy, usually end up marrying the sweet boy.
Life.
2007-01-10 20:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Game Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what you'll end up with. So many people aren't themselves when you're first together. Sometimes it takes a tragedy or hardship for the real person to show themselves.
2007-01-10 20:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like to be sweet but not toooo sweet. need to know when to say no. and when to be a little forceful, you can't just roll over all the time. that's why i like a girl that can challenge me in a conversation.
2007-01-10 20:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well we dont want guys who are pushover, we want the ones who can please us and meet our needs, but be strong and be a man.
we like the occasional mushy, but it can only go soo far.
My guy cousin is too nice and i tell him dont over complement a female, it gets old, and dont tell her right away ur feelings.
We want confidence, not Gumbo the playdo guy who we can walk all over.
It attracts us to meet a guy who can be sensitive but manly at the same time.
Its sexy to us, for a man to be a protector and have that ability.
2007-01-10 20:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by Purple Haze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't found the right one yet...
um...your kinda weird if it's okay to say it .
You know Cute nice guys actually exist, there just rare cause the rest of them suck...take too much space
2007-01-10 20:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well people are out to try new things,go out with guys 'not their type' so its good to try something new once in a while ... know what i mean [??] some gurls like that 'true,true' and some don't ... but you gotta be positive to try new things =] cheers!
2007-01-10 20:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋