Me and my boyfriend sat going through my photo album. We have been together 7 months. In my album i have photos of other male friends that ive just had my picture with, with my arm round them. My boyfriend got very jealous and said he didnt want me to have a photo taken with anyone again like that! Why did he get jealous? Is this something to worry about?
2007-01-10 19:57:55 · 41 answers · asked by Kate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's routine for men.
2007-01-10 20:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by pooya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think everybody is right. He is insecure and that is making him become a control freak to try and stop the insecurity.
People shouldn't be jealous but they are. For some reason none of us were made perfect. Maybe explain to him that now that you have him you don't need other boyfriends and that there is nothing anyone can do to change the past.
2007-01-10 20:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want to think that the girl that they love is theirs, always will be theirs, always has been theirs, etc.
Though I know that fact and try to not act that way I still find myself feeling that way.
Why, cause we constantly have to work hard at life and once we find something we really like, we want to keep it. Because if that thing makes us happy or peaceful, then there is true meaning to all our struggles. If anyone else is close we feel that the bond we share could break because that is life, and that is one of the things we fear the most.
Some men go to greater or more fearsome lengths then others to control the things that they want.
In other words, yes be worried unless you know him well enough to have a reason not to worry (heck even then worry because all humans change drastically to something we dont expect).
(Note: when I say We, I mean people, or more particuarly, men.)
2007-01-10 20:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by rezruf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For insecure people it can be hard to see there partner showing affection to someone else - even when its in a photo taken 5years ago - its the fact they are seeing it now.
It's something that could be a problem if its not sorted, but dont make it a point of arguement. Just try to work on building trust and make him realise its ok to have friends of the opposite sex. Maybe get him to spend a day with one of your female friends without you to show him that you trust him and its ok to be friends with other people.
2007-01-10 20:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Digby Chicken Bhuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not really something to worry about, but you have to talk to him about it... He is definitely insecure about your relationship, and he might not even trust himself!
Don't panic or jump to conclusions, or brake up with him until you asked him why he got jealous about that.. Tell him they are your friends and if you want photo's of you and your friends then you will take those photo's!
2007-01-10 20:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Fairy-Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are naturally protective of their mates. He obviously feels slightly threatened seeing you close to other men in those pictures, especially if it's more than several men. He obviously questions your past sexuality and could be slightly off-set by it. I would not be mad at him for his behavior, but do reassure him that he's the person in your life who is important and possibly remove some of those pictures, especially if those are random guys and not important friends.
If your boyfriend is extremely controlling (he will not allow you to hang out with your girl-friends, or will not allow you to take a private phone call once in a while) you may be more careful with him, but the natural possessiveness that comes with most men should be more appreciated rather than attacked or worried about.
2007-01-10 20:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by Glynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend over-reacted big time and sounds like the jealous type...is this something to worry about? Depends if you want to continue a relationship with the jealous type.
2007-01-10 20:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sonny E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure. Yes this is something to worry about. Due to his lack of confidence in himself, he will lack confidence in you. The trust will be gone. He needs to get over his insecurity. Maybe he feels threatened by these other men because he wonders what you can possibly see in him. Tell him that you don't want anyone else, only him but if he fails to realize that, he needs to do some soul searching. He can't be happy being with you if he can't be happy with himself.
Much luck,
Asia
2007-01-10 20:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by deeplydemented 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer yourself this question..."Could you be in a relationship if you didn't trust your partner?"
My answer would be NO. I am assuming you haven't given him any reason to. His jealousy will only get worse as time goes by. If you really like him, talk to him and tell him how this makes you feel. If he can't understand that or refuses to work on this issue, leave the relationship. There are better men out there that won't try to control you and respect you.
2007-01-10 20:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mexybabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. He is very insecure. The danger is that he could turn into a control freak. Insecure people are dangerous. Sit down, have a talk with him and if this is still an issue, run like hell.
2007-01-10 20:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by Alice S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be care full, if he gets jealous over childhood photo's, what is he going to be like, if any MALE friend ( yours or his ) get too friendly with you !!!
2007-01-14 12:33:54 · answer #11 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋