Ladies: where do you draw the line for a guy's successful flirting and for desperate flirting?

Answer 1

I don't think there is a line. There are only people trying too hard. A guy desperate or not knows when you aren't interested in him.
No matter what he does. I think we all get a little desperate in our flirting sometimes.

Answer 2

Desperate flirting . . . He shows lack of confidence...' paws ' at her with his words...focuses on her body, not her mind or personal self. He just goes up to her and begins in with his 'lines' and doesn't properly introduce himself. He looks at her with lustful or hungry eyes instead of smiling, respectful eyes.

Successful flirting...He will keep glancing (not staring) at her, catch her eye, smile at her with a longer confident, while still respectful gaze. He will smile at her, allow her to absorb his presence and attention. He will approach her and look her in the eyes, not scan her body, and say something as "I noticed you and I'd like to introduce my self". Or . . . " You have a nice smile, my name is ( " " " ), do you mind if I talk to you ? " / " May I ask you name ? ".

A woman likes to be made felt comfortable with a man. Create a comfortable atmosphere (not overbearing or creepy) and the woman will be more to open to 'invite' you into her space and stay awhile for initial conversation. Events flow on from there.

One line I draw is when a guy might tell the woman that '"she might be the ' one ' " in any time frame less that three weeks (actually longer).

Answer 3

Yes, the line is very obvious to me. A guy who buys me $2,000 worth of gifts in a two day period is frantic for a relationship; I usually dont see them again. Also if a guy is sure I am the one for him in the first or second date.........they are way too anxious.

Answer 4

I agree with e_phiphany