Plz tell me ur advice,me and my bf r dating since 7 monthsand he wants to have sex with me since the 2 month?
but i told him that am scared and nervous cuz am still virgin and he said that he respect my feelings but he wants me to feel safe with him.i know he loves me but am scared he would do it with another gurl cuz he is so hottt and popular and alot of gurls wish to have him but he said that he will never cheat on me and he will wait untill am ready so how can i be ready and take this feelings away and do it and how should i tell him that am ready plzzzzzz
and he wants to meet me tomorrow at his house he said he keeps a surprise for me and it really a good one we will share t alone should i go or not?
2007-01-10 19:42:08 · 9 answers · asked by aha i wanna know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ever feel pressured to have sex just because you are scared that he will go elsewhere for it. If he does, then you deserved better. Understand that if someone truly loves you, they will stay with you whether you will have sex or not, especially if you are a virgin. It is understandable that you are nervous. Whether he is popular or not, he can love you and be faithful if it is what he wants to be. I am telling you what I know because I am a teenager, now a college student and I have always been popular and dated my fair share of popular and unpopular guys so just because he is popular, if he loves you...he will stay. If he leaves or cheats, that's what he wanted to do and it has nothing to do with you. It is great that he respects you!! Losing your virginity is a big deal, once its gone, its gone. But it is important you lose it to someone you feel respects you and you can be comfortable with. If thats him, go for it but only when you are good and ready. Good Luck!!
2007-01-10 19:51:48 · answer #1 · answered by msmith4950@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have sex if your don't feel ready to, always trust your instinct, because if you don't then later on in life you have wished to save yourself to someone who actually loves you and will cherish you, if your boyfriend really loves you and appreciates you then I'm very sure that he'll understand and will respect your decision. If he doesn't which I know will hurt, then you'll know what kind of guy he was and what he really wanted, but from what your saying he sounds like a nice guy. Like that saying "Good things come for boys who wait!" keep that in mind. About going over to his house, be careful he might want to have sex that night, if not then he might want to watch a movie, and just to let you know, there are other activities to do other then sex.
Good Luck!
2007-01-10 20:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by natali3x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is ask yourself "If this guy gets me pregnant, will I be okay?" Secondly, you must judge your morals and then make the choice.
Personally, I think you should start slow, play with each other and see what happens, also be sure to use protection. The way I see it, you could wake up dead tomorrow, so live today, but don't do something you might regret tomorrow... Remember, there are other girls out there and as soon as he gets what he wants, there is nothing keeping him around!
Good luck! I wish you the best!
2007-01-10 19:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by Manny Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You sound too young to be getting ready to have sex. Whatever you do - make sure you use really good protection, best of all is to get on the pill - but condoms will do, too. But really: don't let a guy pressure you into anything you might not be ready for. Your time will come, no need to rush it.
2007-01-10 19:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go...as long as you don't feel pressured into doing something that you don't want to do. You should remember that you're in control and you don't have to have sex until you feel that you are completely ready
(the suprise for you is a box of condoms)
2007-01-10 19:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sonny E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the one who knows when you're comfortable with sex or whatever else he wants to do. If you're uneasy, thats a good sign not to go forward. Women have a very good instincts for these type of things, so just trust your gut. Don't let him guilt you or trick you into something you don't want to do.
The fact that your asking this question, tells me that you shouldn't go.
2007-01-10 19:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. If you feel pressured, don't go. Its your life. If he's willing to wait till you are ready, then he's a rare guy, and worthy of you. If not..then he's not worth what it will cost you.
But, whenever you do... use protection.
2007-01-10 19:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must to be ready when u are feel comfortable me and my b.f for one year and he don't want to have sex because he knows that i am virgin and told me that it's holy that i will wait until the married if he loves u truly he will wait to be married, don't do thing that u are not comfortable and just because someone force u.
2007-01-10 20:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say go, its always your decission wether or not you wnat to have sex, he cant force anything, who knows he might just have a good dinner or somthin, if you do feel uncomfortable then jsut ask him to stop or leave all togther.
Have Fun
2007-01-10 19:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by laxgod55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋