I received an unexpected invitation to the dinner party by my old friend. The invitation to attend this party costs money as the host put in an invitation card as 100 bucks and it will go to one of the charity foundations.
I find it awkard to decline his invitation straight forward as I don't want to offend him. How should I say it in a nice way to him perhaps I might just take it as no-show attitude and forget about receiving this invitation.
Personally, I feel this is definitely not a proper way in sending an invitation to friends for fund raising.
2007-01-10 19:29:09 · 17 answers · asked by Rod 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think you should simply tell him you have prior plans arranged.
2007-01-10 19:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax! It's just an invitation. It's entirely up to you whether you go.
Give him the benefit of the doubt. Think of it this way, your friend knows that you are capable of deciding what you can afford and when to donate. He knows you might decline. He knows it's your choice! He can't obligate you. If he was trying to obligate then that would be rude, but you don't really have any evidence that's what he's trying to do. So far, he's given you an OPTION. That's all!
So far he's done nothing rude. Maybe a little odd that this is time an old friend chooses to get in touch with you, but may he just thought that you'd enjoy this event!
You don't need an excuse to decline an invitation. Just decline it. Send back the RSVP saying you cannot attend. Or write a note saying, "Thanks for asking me, but I can't make it." Then maybe suggest another time you can get together. That way he'll know your still interested in his friendship despite the fact that you won't be attending this event.
2007-01-10 19:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you didn't include the wording of the invite, I'll assume it was not done correctly. As was stated above, there should have been an RSVP card. If there was not, simply sent a note or call and say you regret you will not be able to attend. If he has manners, he won't ask why. If he does not have manners, and does ask why, simply tell him that you charitable contributions budget is already spoken for, maybe next year.
2007-01-10 19:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by zaleonia1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend sent you a fancy party invitation, there should be a RSVP card attached that allows you to simply indicate that you will not be in attendance. If not, you can send him a simple card/note (if you want to keep it formal) to say that unfortunately you will not be able to attend. (I don't think it's crucial to elaborate on the reason why. You can simply say that you can not attend due to a prior engagement..etc.) In your note, you can further thank him for the kind invitation and say a little praise about his fund-raising efforts and charity involvement, and send your best wishes. It may sound overly formal but at least you've been responsive and kind.
2007-01-10 19:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by curious cat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are uncomfortable with this invitation, and I don't blame you! I have my favorite charities, and give as I can.
If there is an RSVP card, send it back saying you are unable to attend. If no card, write a note saying the same thing. You do not have to give an explanation as to why you aren't going.
If he should be so rude as to call you and ask why you aren't going, be honest and tell him you have your own favorite charities and have already budgeted for them. Do not back down and give in! If he is offended by that, he is no friend!
2007-01-10 20:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is all about what you want to do, yet when i replaced into on your shoes, i does not go. i ought to attend until eventually after her social gathering, and then i ought to contact her by some skill, telling her that the friendship heavily isn't a friendship anymore and then examine consisting of her even if to end it or attempt to fasten it. Ask her if she reveals your friendship important. If she says she's been busy, she would not care. and that i do not imagine doing the same aspect to her teaches her a lesson. It in simple terms enable's her recognize that you're in simple terms as a lot a b*tch as she is. you should address it extra maturely. That way you received't remorseful about something and she or he will be able to not be waiting accountable you for "ruining" your friendship.
2016-11-28 03:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell he the dinner is a little to pricey for you on top of your regular donation budget... that you've made your donation plans for the year and they're for the same bunch you always give to (whoever that might be..) Sorry about that, ole buddy, but I won't be there for the party.
It's no big deal to turn down an invitation that has a dollar sign in front of it... people do it all the time and the party hosts actually aren't surprised.
Be like Nancy... "Just say No."
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2007-01-10 19:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say thank you, but you wont be able to attend. When he asks why, say "personal reasons." But if he was really a friend, you should be able to say that it sounds fun, but you just aren't able to spend $100 to attend a dinner party right now.
2007-01-14 05:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can return the card in the mail, then just decline and mail it. I agree, its really tacky to solicit money for anything this way! Don't feel uncomfortable, just write a short note if you have to and politely decline.
2007-01-10 19:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by dallygirl89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you have prior arrangements for that evening and that you have contributed your charitable donations for this year. And you are correct, it is rude to ask someone to support a charity you may not necessarily support or even be familiar with.
2007-01-11 03:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have 2 options. The 1st is to say that you have prior obligations. The 2nd, Let your friend know that at this time, things are tight and you do not have 100.00 to spare
2007-01-10 19:42:58 · answer #11 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋