i love him and have loved him for 2 years. ive told him 3 times and he said we were great friends. and then all of the sudden one night i was comparing myself to the ugly chick and he put his arm around me just playing and he kisses me and we fooled around for about an hour. then he said im sorry i wasnt myself the next day. and after this happened that night he said we couldnt date and we just layed there and held each other. then the other day we were sayin our regrets and he said he regretted that night. it hurt to hear that. Whats going on here? does he like me? how can i make him fall for me?
2007-01-10 19:18:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm . . . I think it's time for you to give up. I don't think he likes you. You can't make him change his mind either. Good luck with the next one!
2007-01-10 19:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm okay, first of all..You cannot MAKE him fall for you that he has to do on his own, its like forcing someone to love you... It could be two things..1 He enjoys your friendship and he is scared of losing you as a friend and doesnt wanna take that chance or 2 he really only sees you as a friend... But you know what love, If you love him so much...wouldnt you rather want him in your life as a friend than have him as nothing??!! Dont wait for him to love you....you might just wait forever!!! Friendship is golden and should be treasured...dont throw it away
2007-01-11 03:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this but this is the beginning of the end of your friendship. Just cut it off now and it'll be a lot easier in the end. You've crossed that threshold and now someone's having second thoughts.
Last year, I had a similar situation. I had decided that I couldn't not say something about my feelings for her anymore. She beat me to it by about two sentences, though. A week later, she ended up getting cold feet. Claimed she wanted to be friends still, though, since we had 4+ years of history and had been very close up to that point. Two weeks later, she started ignoring me, including to my face, and started talking to a new guy (again, to my face). I tried several times over 4 or 5 months to keep the friendship but there came a time I had to let go. I wrote her a very polite email in no uncertain terms since I couldn't get her on the phone. (If you chose this method, be sure to let it sit around for a few days, reread it, re-edit as necessary to keep it as level as possible and then send.) Once I did, I was much happier and met someone that I'm now very serious about with great potential to marry.
I never got a direct response to that email. No "I'm sorry you feel that way. Maybe we can talk again down the road" or even "you know, I think you're right. It's been nice knowing you."
Four months later, I got an email. She said that she had married the guy but that it had been pretty tough. She said she was sorry for letting it go down the way it did, etc., and that she really could have used a friend to talk to at times. She said that she really wanted to mend fences, etc. I told her that I was involved with someone, that it was serious, and that I had come to the conclusion that we were best off as friends and that I would keep it that way even if we were both single again. I cited our history together and that it really wasn't worth sacrificing and losing it once already was bad enough.
My response was 3 months ago. That was the last communication between us. My guess is she was fishing for a response I wasn't going to give her so she'd have someone to fill in again when she left him (since she had already dumped him at least once before marrying him). It was her MO over the last year or so I knew her. When she was single, we were inseparable and flirty as hell. When she was even talking to someone, I never heard from her.
In short, nip this one in the bud and let him know that you feel it's time to move on. You care for him but it'll be too much pain to be friends and too tempting to hold on and hope. Because it will. The sooner you let go, the better. In fact, if you've been waiting years for him to come around, this step is imperative. I'd had feelings for her for 2 years as well and it just killed to be around her or to think about her once the worst of it went down. Maintaining a friendship with her knowing I would also be thinking "she turned me down for THAT douchebag?" was impossible.
2007-01-11 04:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always say girls n guys cant be best freinds because sooner or later ur gona feel that spark . now some people run with it and dont think twice about it others do . in my oppinion he really cares for you as a freind . thats y he regrets wut he did because he gave u mixed emotions n now he no's he hurt u . aite u love him but picture down the line if u guys get into an arguement like all couples do ?... there gos ur freind ship . wen a bf n gf break up its wut it is ....a break up ! like the saying gos men / women come n go but freinds r forever . i suggest u c him as wut he see's u . i dont think u should throw ur bond away for an infatuation that can lead 2 worst heart break down the line .cuz if yall broke up n didnt have a previous thing den you'd jus loose ur ex . but since yall did ud be loosin ur ex n ur best freind ....
2007-01-11 04:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by bandolera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you but prefers to not put your relationship to the test ending up losing you.He would rather have a lifelong friend,why would you want to mess that up?
2007-01-11 07:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make anyone do anything! He knows how you feel=If he comes to you like a man should then you will know if he likes you. Don't give up the cuda!
2007-01-11 03:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by bonskin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋