Why do some guys find it unattractive for a woman to have had alot of lovers?
2007-01-10 18:26:19 · 14 answers · asked by donna_nova 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is with the understanding that she has been a responsible lover (used protection, has no STD's, knows how to take care of her body--inside and out, etc.) So there is nothing "blown out" on her. And has had long-term relationships before....
2007-01-10 18:45:33 · update #1
Mostly it is women who give other women a bad name for having experience. Some women are insecure and will use another woman's sexual experience against her. (See example below my answer, she is exactly what I am talking about) Most men who have issues with it usually say it's because they are afraid of disease. Check out the recent questions I asked on here to get a better idea.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ask9fsvEbQ20NhX_LioYtpzsy6IX?qid=20070110012333AAA4wY1
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aosb59c1OInQpja2WPh2_YTsy6IX?qid=20070108005744AAiyurc
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2007-01-10 18:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men are egotistical and do not like the thought of possibly being compared to other men on any level. It does not bother all of us, but I do know some guys who make excuses not to get involved with women like that. It is their loss, because the best women I have ever had the pleasure of sleeping with were educated in the FINER art. If I were you I would chalk their loss up to experience also. You can now tell a boy from a real man.
2007-01-11 02:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a result of the patriarchal structure of the societies created around the Abrahamic religions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam), nothing more. In some cultures, everyone has sex before they're married because you want to know your wife can have kids or your husband has good sperm. My boyfriend's the virgin in our relationship and he doesn't seem to have any problem with the fact that I'm more experienced than he is; curious, maybe, but it didn't change the way he treats me when I told him.
2007-01-11 02:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are intimidated by the competition. they will think that you are comparing them to your previous lovers; size, staying power, techniques etc. It can be tough on the male ego. An inexperienced lover has little or nothing to compare to so they are seen as a much lesser threat.
2007-01-11 02:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by Rich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because guys are chauvinistic pigs and think that it is OK for men to shove their d**k into anything, but if a woman does it she's a sl*t. Women have needs too! Who says we have to only test the field a couple of times and stop. As long as you are protecting yourself, there is nothing wrong with sowing your oats!
2007-01-11 02:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by MRod 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are pros and cons.
Pros: They may know what they want. Hopefully they won't play games. They might have a few tricks up their sleeves.
Cons: They may have emotional baggage (lots of it). They may have physical baggage (lots of it). There may be a reason as to why they're single (like being nuts). They may have other motives due to financial problems, wanting to take your life-force away, etc. They're blown out mang! j/k
2007-01-11 02:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are not really thinking realistically about 50 years of marriage and fun in the sack - or they are intimidated by the feeling they are being compared to others by their wife. Maybe they are afraid that she will tired of sex easily or get bored with just them and may stray.
Peace!
2007-01-11 02:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being experienced isnt a bad thing, but some people think of it as you may have had too many partners and there are a lot of things they may assume to be wrong with you, howeer you are probably not any of those things however it is a lot of baggage for some people to handle. dont take it offensively, it is just how some people are!
2007-01-11 02:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by crazy_music123 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too much experience seems to reduce a womans femininity
and desirablity as a wife to men...
2007-01-11 02:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
actually never bothered me ,they have as much right as guys to enjoy themselves
2007-01-11 02:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋