broke up 6 months ago after a 3 yr relationship.had devastating illness happen to my son day after he left.Ex will not speak to me&closes phone.He says its over& does not want to know us anymore.I think he is bipolar,he does not know how to read &has had many bad things happen to him due to his condition.He looks like he is afraid to talk to us ?ashamed?son was at point of death &he loved him very much but did not respond when this happened
2007-01-10 18:12:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It will last as long as long as you cling to any hope of getting back together.
Personally, I do not think much of your ex as a man for not coming to his sons side when he was ill. Perhaps he thought you were creating a trick to get him back.
After 6 months it seems he truly is done with you.
I had someone in my life once that dumped me suddenly and I didn't have a clue why. He would not even talk to me or explain. Put me on a bus and sent me home.We were engaged and he had paid for me to come see him. I thought I would die. Rejection is so hard to take. I think that is why it is so hard to heal from a broken relationship. Many Years later his Mother told me that since I was married but separated at the time we met that he told her if he married me, he would always feel like he had robbed another mans castle. I seen him as a coward for not telling me that. Not knowing what happened was so painful.
I can relate to your question and I know what pain you are dealing with. Good luck to you and have a Wonderful New Year.~~ Jill
2007-01-10 21:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For each person it is different, some get over them right off the bat and others well, it may take rest of their life to do that. Some never get divorced, so they can not commit to another relationship that may turn out bad again. I am sorry to hear that he did not respond to when his son was so sick that he could of died. Some people when they leave , they stayed away, for many reasons, one could be he knows if he gets around his son he will want him, and he can not have him. There are so many reason why a person does that. It is a very hard place to be for all of you, and it should not be taken out on the child like that, cause he had nothing to do with you two slitting up. But quit often it ends up hurting the childern involved too, and they get to think that they were the casue of the brake up. So focus on your son right now, and let him know that it was not his felt that you and your husband broke up. Things like this happen every day, and you need to work on keeping yourself and your son ok, your ex will take care of his needs. If you find you can not do it along then go to a therapist, and talk about it, it could be good for your son to do the same. It does work you know.
2007-01-10 18:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have few issue to solve there.
-- Are you sure your ex has bipolar or dislexia? How is his problem avoid family when you and him already have a child?
-- Are you sure he left you because of his shame? have you talked to him? Leaving you, could be his future shameful decision,too. If he left you without a word he is pretty immature, and he may regret not talking about his decision with you.
- Are you trying to forget him or leave him alone?
It isn't very reallistic for you to forget him honestly. If you think he has mental illness, he might forget you soon. How can you coupe your son and your feeling to this issue? How you both understand your ex situation?
-- Plan the best for your and son to move on. Don't seek for another man to substitute your pain, it is the worse mistake you can do, not mentioning immature and reckless decision.
-- if you love your ex yet, keep him into your heart with no resent. He decided what is the best for himself. If you love him, let him be selfish.
-- Find support from your friends and family.
-- Children are always sensitive whatever happen to parents. Help your child to understand his dad is sick and need to go find cure.
-- Proctet and encourage your child to see positive way of life
2007-01-10 18:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by xsquash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you and your child he would still be there for you
i think you should move on........
2007-01-10 18:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get over and old LOVE find a NEW love...That is how you do it...Love cures love..
2007-01-10 18:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by patricia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it takes however long you let it take.
2007-01-10 18:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋