Theirs came out of the blue after being together for 8 years and living together for 3 years, mine would be at the perfect time for us after 3 years of dating...but their engagement was first. Should we wait, and if so how long after theirs? If we planned it for before theirs, would that be rude? We both want big weddings...seems like too much stress and planning for family to go through all at once. Whats the norm for these kind of things?
2007-01-10 18:07:44 · 6 answers · asked by sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would wait a little longer than 2 months for several reasons. One, you don't want your wedding getting "lost in the shuffle." Weddings take a lot out of a family emotionally and financially, it's a lot of stress, even though it's a happy occasion. Also, since you will both have at least 50% of the same people attending, it might force some to choose one over the other if they must travel. In addition, don't forget about all the other pre-wedding events that might overlap: showers, engagement parties, rehearsal dinners. You could definitely start your planning whenever you want, I would just make it at least 4-6 months after hers. Congrats!
2007-01-12 10:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the norm would be for this type of situation, but my advice is talk to the sibling. If they were engaged first then, I would say don't steal their moment. planned or spontaneous isn't the important thing here, if it is to be a big wedding more than likely it is a first wedding and that is a day we all look forward too from childhood almost it seems. I would say if family is helping you to plan and pay for wedding I would ask those involved on how long it would they feel they would need to help with another large wedding. A double ceremony is another alternative if waiting is out of the question and if the sibling wouldn't mind sharing the occassion? Also alot less costly for the families helping out, and in planning.... Would be a wonderful festive day to share together (AS family) But by all account please avoid the rushing in to get married before their big day....that would be very insensitive. True Love has no time lines.......marriage is paper....the wedding a memorous occassion.... love is forever, we all want our special day, don't rain on anothers
2007-01-10 18:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by fleaflopper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way seems OK. I have 4 cousins (brothers), who are all getting married within a few months of each other. And, while they're families do seem slightly stressed, it's been a really fun few months for everyone!
2007-01-10 18:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best wedding party i ever went to was when 2 sisters got marrie dthe same day saved dad money too
2007-01-10 19:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by tobabill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you should have your wedding when it is good for you and your future spouse. It is all about the two of you joining, and not about who else is doing what. Good luck to you...
2007-01-10 19:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should do how is better for you
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2007-01-10 18:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋