Should someone eye-contact strangers?

Question

When I do not notice complete strangers I feel better, but when I look at them I get depressed and lose my self-confidence. So I avoid looking at strangers (I only have eyes for beautiful girls/women near my age). What do you feel? Should someone eye-contact complete strangers or no? I forgot to say that I have a stunning photographic memory, so that's another reason I avoid eye-contact with strangers.

And in addition it is NOT true that people not looking at others are NOT self-confident. On the other hand - they are TOO confident sometimes and focused only on themselves. I also think that one should notice only important people for him (friends, staff, relatives, neighbours, classmates etc.). Why should you walk down the street and look everubody in the eye, since you may never see them again?

Answer 1

To me, people who don't have eye contact with random passerbies seem fearful and very lacking in confidence. Not everyone needs to be acknowledged obviously - but people who really avoid looking at 'strangers' and make a habit out of it are a little creepy imho. But I am friendly and feel more confident when I am connected to my surroundings, which includes human beings who happen to be sharing the same space with me. :-)

It depends on where you are also - obviously.

Answer 2

Why not? Just smile and say hello if you catch someones eye. Never gotten me into trouble and usually, even the most gruff characters will smile back. Just make it quick and move on - continued eye contact what you may want to avoid.

Its hard to be an *** to someone that has just smiled and said hello.

If you do that, you have disarmed any reason they might have to be angry.

However, you might end up in a conversation you might not want. If that happens - someone says "hey man, you seem cool, give me a dollar for the bus." you want to already ignore them as if they are talking to someone else "hey! Hey! Wait Up Man!" just keep walking as if they aren't there.

Just use your instincts and you can tell the difference way ahead of time. That's the kind of person that is looking for people to make eye contact with them - its usually obvious.

Answer 3

This can be seen as a cultural issue. Coming from an Asian background, you are taught that it is rude to look people in the eyes and I hardly ever do it. I especially avoid it if it is with a stranger. I tend to look at people's mouths or foreheads. If I'm walking around, I'll notice people's watches, shoes, and purses.

Answer 4

It relies upon on the problem and the context of their relationship. usually, i might want to assert that if the guy is around the same age as then you eye contact is totally acceptable, providing that you destroy the contact once in a lengthy time period to maintain away from staring. also, attempt nodding and smiling so the different human being can see that you're being attentive to what they are saying. in case you discover it too awkward to look straight away right into someone's' eyes then attempt watching their nostril. To the different human being evidently that you're looking into their eyes. From a lady attitude i imagine women human beings a lot favor to have adult males look them contained in the interest that search for suggestion from from their boobs as that exhibits that they are less than no circumstances in touch contained in the communique.

Answer 5

If you're walking down the street,then no,it's not a good idea to eye contact strangers. Some people see it as a challenge (like you mean to harm them) and might see you as a threat.
Now if you're meeting someone in a business setting or interview,then yes, it's always a good idea to look that person in the eye and maintain eye contact to show them you are interested in what they have to say and in return you're making sure they are paying attention to what you're saying.

Answer 6

Coming from the South (Texas), I consider it generally rude to avoid eye contact (along with a greeting) when walking by somebody. Everybody in Texas makes eye contact and says hello to passers-by (of course, dependant on how many people are around).

When in Asia, nobody looks at you, and it's very off-putting. It means they don't want to have anything to do with you, and they are making it quite clear. I realize it's a cultural thing, but it's still cold and distant.

I have to totally agree, too, that those who avoid eye contact in the US are generally of lower self-esteem.