She has a temper and it has been affecting our relationship. i have confronted her and she said she will change but what can i do to help her change and what can i do to build back my self esteem. bacause when she has a temper she attacks me and puts me down. if i mess up the littlest bit , im not perfect who is, she comes and blows up and degrades me and calls me all sorts of names and uses my personal insecurities to hurt me. she is pushing me away and makes me not want to talk to her or even be with her because of this. what can i do??!?!?
2007-01-10 17:46:12 · 12 answers · asked by help me please 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm so sorry to hear that.. but maybe i could help you. i am in that same situation like your girlfriend. irrational it may be, but we find it difficult to control our tempers. but most of the times we really dont mean throwing fits at you guys. there's nothing much you can really do about it except to be more patient and understanding.
she said she will change. make her promise that she will really change. tell her you believe in her. trust me, she'll be more willing to change if she knows you believe she could. whenever her temper attacks again, remind her about her promise before she loses her control over it. but say it in a calm, comforting way. dont say it in a way that will irritate her more. you have to be more patient with her during those times.. .
to build back your self esteem, just remember that you are a great person because God made you. if other people belittle you, dont listen to them. they just dont know you that much. and who says they have the right to judge you?
when you know you are doing the right thing, dont let others get in the way...
Godbless..
2007-01-10 18:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by silkensaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 sides to each story. More than likely, you've did the same or worse to her. This is especially true when a man is in denial and has substance abuse problem , hasn't always communicating, or completely faith full. And now that you know how that feels to be mistreated and disrespected in the manner that you have been doing lately. You have to do some soul searching on how am I going to make things right her.
2007-01-10 17:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by Legsology07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can see 2 options...and they both include talking to her about her temper. The options are hers...work on that temper because it's ruining your relationship or she chooses to stay like that and lose you. If she needs to get help about her temperment, then you can be there with her while she does it. If she doesn't care to change, then she isn't good enough for you. I've been in a relationship like that...it breaks your insides and tears you down to nothing. It takes a LONG time to build that back up, I promise! Good luck!!
2007-01-10 17:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Realize the fact that she isn't into you anymore and is just afraid of telling you. She is looking for you to break up with her, so give her what she wants. DO NOT allow her to abuse you like this. She has no right to say those things to you. This kind of abusive relationship will never last and if it does it is only because you don't believe that you deserve to be treated any better. If this is the case, get help NOW.
2007-01-10 17:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen bro...it happens life is not a bed of roses..It may be that she might have very high expectations from you...so the slightest of things ,may let her down....have you thought so?..u must think on dat side too...above all you need to know that what she wants ....she might be angry on you...but in fact dat its her way of expressing so...yes it is harsh for you...but if u really think she's ur soulmate ..giv it a try..and see what happens?..if its good then 1 day things wil workout..Be patient...and in d meanwhile you can talk to her..and tell her what hurts you..its imperative you must communicate,and y don't you talk her out? Hope it helps
2013-09-28 01:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Saurav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has anger problems dear. And It seems that she's verbally and mentally abusing you. This is very dangerous and it's wrong. You don't have to put up with it.
Leave her to save yourself. It may be selfish, but if you don't care about yourself, who will? (it doesn't seem like she will)
If you're really in love with her, and want to "fix" her, know that there's nothing you can do to "fix" her by yourself. She has to take the initiative to calm down and learn to deal.
You can suggest that she see a psychiatrist about this. Even better, suggest couple's therapy and see if she doesn't take it into her own hands to take up her own private therapy sessions.
If nothing gets better, do not prolong the relationship. LEAVE HER
2007-01-10 17:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by sir_camm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im purely approximately 25, and that i choose you to appreciate, i replaced into alot like her. i do no longer understand how my guy submit with me for soooo long, yet i'm happy he did. I had a mild fuse and replaced into commonplace for grudges. i understand I drove him loopy and he's very equivalent to you in being greater laid returned and attempting to be there form of guy. I on no account understood why I have been given so disappointed over little issues till under a year in the past whilst issues have been given relatively undesirable. i'm a depressent, which does no longer constantly advise unhappy, notwithstanding it could additionally teach signs and indicators of anger. i'm no longer able to be for particular it relatively is her concern or no longer, notwithstanding you ought to to communicate to her approximately it, fantastically if she desires to maintain you around and to make issues greater hassle-free on herself. You sound like a competent couple, and that i in my opinion wish issues artwork out for you. My guy replaced into affected person, and we are 7 years mutually, and we began relationship at 18 too. purely college replaced into alot of my rigidity, because it must be hers, you realize her ultimate. yet I do wish I helped some, or gave you a obtainable answer :)
2016-10-06 23:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by mauzon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from her. She's a psycho byatch and will make you miserable forever.
You'll never find a good woman while you're wasting your time with a byatch-hag from hell.
2007-01-10 17:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by DredPir8Roberts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz dump her, the point of having a bf/gf is to feel good about yourself and open a hole for light to shine unto your life
2007-01-10 17:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new g/f
2007-01-10 17:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋