My girlfriend takes out her anger on me when i am not the one she is angry with.?

Question

She is very happy and cheerful most of the time but other times she snaps at me and for no reason. even when i go out of my way to help her she will have some negative comment or get an attitude with me when i am tryign to have a nice conversation with her. i am lost as to why she takes out her anger on me when she is not angry at me. she also has a temper. if i do the littlest things wrong than she blows up. what do i do?!?!?

Answer 1

well I dunno, maybe your gf is insecure and is dealing with issues that have nothing to do with you but you're the easiest target?!!!

You should reassure her, girls are all about personal comments that are uplifting and supportive.......

Have you ever put her down for certain things that are applicable in your own life? If you have then she's most likely holding a grudge and can't seem to let go because she probly doesn't feel you're really sorry or somethin.....

tough question , either talk openly with her and come to an end with this negative behavior, or move on, cuz no one has the right to keep you in a place of downtrodden emotions, that's just control issues and you need to run fast away from those...

p.s. maybe your girl is a bit depressed?

Answer 2

Talk to her and if she doesn't like it......Leave her * No one should have a temper and get out of control with anger..she needs to talk to someone professionaly to find out why she is triggered over the littlest things..
Don't allow someone to rip your face off(blow up at you) for something you havn't even done....You will begin to think everything you do is not good enough. That's not a good thing*~ You can do better and find someone who'll appreciate YOU for Who You ARe* Not to be a punching bag for someone else or a board they can sound off of.
Goodluck*
Just remember You Are Worth Better*

Answer 3

Don't jump to conclusions.

Women do this for a variety of reasons.

1) Most women are actually AFRAID of getting what they most desire. That's why women tend to date jerks who treat them like crap, even though they SAY they want a nice guy (like you). Seeing how you fit the bill, some women will actually SABOTAGE the relationship, effectually blaming you for the whole thing, and date a jerk loser and wonder why her life sucks and she can't meet any decent men. It's very masochistic, but it holds true to some extent.

2) She's not really mad at what you're doing... but what your NOT doing. When she comes home from a shitty day at work and complains about it, don't offer advice or guidance on how to fix the problem. Just listen... and say "I'm sorry you have to go through all that b.s. honey..." Don't say to her, "Perhaps you should talk to your boss and...." blah blah. Don't advise... just listen.

3) She knows she's got you by the balls... and you're so eager to please her... that it actually pisses her off. Do the opposite for now on. If she gets mad at you for no reason, or over something so silly, get MAD AT HER BACK! Women don't like wussies. They want a MAN, and sometimes being a man means standing up for yourself. Why do you think wussies and "nice guys" never get chicks? Or at least chicks who aren't psychotic and controlling? Because real decent women like men with BALLS.

Stand up to her and wear the ****** pants, especially if she's giving you **** for things that aren't YOUR fault. Listen to her when she moans about whatever... don't advice. And if that doesn't work, meet someone sane.

Answer 4

People always seem to take their anger out on the one they love the most because they know that you will listen and still love them after they vent. Let her know in a suttle kind of way that her yelling can later on lead to health problems if not already. She might have high blood pressure and need medication. If it keeps getting worse, I would suggest to her to go see a doctor about it. At that point, if she decides she don't have a problem then, you might want to consider finding a new girlfriend.

Answer 5

Tell her that u dun like to be treated like that, talk to her and tell her what u think...i think that's the best solution. No one deserve to be scolded for helping..that's just not right. If she has a bad temper, u shld tell her abt it. If she really loves u, am sure she wld change her attitude for the sake of the relationship. Every person has a limit.

Answer 6

Break up w/ her. If she's taking her anger out on you she feels it's ok you're her punching bag. She doesn't have respect for you and she won't gain respect for you for the asking. She needs to grow up and treat the one she's dating better than she would anyone else.

Answer 7

Does she do this at the same time each month?
Is her mother like this? It could be the way she grew up & just how she's used to being & doesn't realize she's doing it. Talk to her about it. Bring it to her attention when she's doing, but be nice about it so you won't argue.

Answer 8

well she sounds way too abusive to be in any kind of relationship,
she needs help.
she's prbly insecure with herself.
If u talk to her about it, in the nicest way possible & she won't listen leave her.,no point in staying!
find someone who will appreciate u.
I'm sure there's plenty.
Just look for a girl that's the opposite ofthe one ur dating now.
Good luck., don't take her bs or she'll never learn.

Answer 9

every girl does that issh its just love... but when she does it again take a page out of ike turners book or bobby brown and slap the issh outta her...

oh and for the record i dont condone hitting women i just think this is a funny question and it deserves a stupid answer...

Answer 10

You need to man-up on your woman. Every time she raises her voice, you raise your hand on her. Give her no mercy. If she knows what's good for her, she better do the dishes or she's gonna get two black eyes. Never let a woman be your boss. Can I get a hooo wahh!!!!