Ok, This is how the story goes...About a year ago my boyfriend asked me to marry him..I turned him down and told him I was not ready for marriage yet even though I love him dearly..He then told me he was not going to give up on me and would one day ask me again..I think he is going to purpose to me on Valentines Day.. I'm still not ready to marry him yet till I'm financially stable for myself..We are financially stable together but I want to be finacially stable for myself..I don't want to turn him down again and hurt his feelings Because I don't want him to leave me...Do you think I am being selfish having him to wait on me this long? When do you think he will Purpose again? Men do you usually purpose to women right away after you asked them before? I hope its not to soon..I would like a man's opinion on this women can answer too. any advice is good.
2007-01-10 17:34:26 · 4 answers · asked by goodies100 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, I spelled Propose wrong..Everyone makes mistakes.
2007-01-10 17:53:35 · update #1
Ok, I spelled Propose wrong..Everyone makes mistakes.
2007-01-10 17:53:39 · update #2
purpose: verb
1 a : something set up as an object or end to be attained : INTENTION b : RESOLUTION, DETERMINATION
2 : a subject under discussion or an action in course of execution
propose: intransitive verb
to make an offer of marriage
2007-01-10 17:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by ayayay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little curious as to why you feel the need to become financially stable before marriage... After all, if you can do it outside of marriage, than you can do it within a marriage. If you fear you won't be able to become financially stable while married to this man, then the problem isn't really about financial stability.
Take a good look at your reasons for saying no. Don't make excuses... if the bottom line is that you're afraid? Just say so.
Oh... and I'd bet most men who propose once and get turned down don't stick around for a year or more to ask again. That's a pretty decent showing of his ability to commit...
2007-01-10 17:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all it's propose not purpose....
and you are being selfish if you two are financially stable together as you've said, then I can only assume you're living together..
your fears are going to make him even more insecure and for that reason alone I bet he will not be proposing to you anytime soon, but as he's stayed this long, maybe you should honestly ask yourself if you really want to marry him anyway, otherwise you're just going to end up hurting his chances with other women
2007-01-10 17:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't want him to leave you, but honey, nobody can wait forever. If you really love him and want to marry him then say YES. There is nothing wrong with a long engagement. Just because you get engaged does not mean you have to marry him next week.
And it is spelled P-R-O-P-O-S-E, not purpose.
2007-01-10 17:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋