THE FATHER OF MY CHILD CHEATED ON ME WHEN I WAS PREGNANT, BY THE TIME I WAS 5 MONTHS HE HAD STARTED DATING SOMEONE ELSE AND BY THE TIME I HAD HIM SHE HAD MOVED IN. THEY ARE NOW BROKEN UP AND I STILL LOVE HIM. WHAT SHOULD I DO.
2007-01-10 17:30:12 · 35 answers · asked by Alyssa a 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
hell no don't take him back-collect that child support though
2007-01-10 17:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You will always have to be friendly with him as he is the babies father adn a child needs both parents, even when they don't live together. Never fight around your child.
But as for getting back together. NO, once someone has shown they will cheat, they'll do it again. If you have him back now, you are telling him through your actions, that you think so little of yourself that he can say he loves you, cheat on you, and when it doesn't work out you'll be there for him to fall back on.
You want an honorable man, then the reality is you date men who don't have sex before marriage and you do the same. You get in a marriage and relationship what you chose in a date.
2007-01-10 17:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you ever trust him again?
Would feel like a fool if you took him back and he did the same thing again?
Cause past behavior is a good judge of future behavior.
If I were you I would move on and find someone to love you like you need and deserve to be loved.
At the time you needed him the most instead of sharing the moments that come once in a lifetime with you ,standing you and being there for you and his child he was off finding someone else.That is not love.You may love him but he apparently from that action does not feel the same.
You can do much better.
Spend time with your child focus on your child.Be the mother he needs.Love will come when it comes.Most important is being there for your child.Put him first.
2007-01-10 19:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you are coming from 100% I was in the same situation pretty much I left, he started dating someone shes now pregnant as well. i know its hard and that you love him but just stay away even if its hard Im not saying swear it off say Ill never go back but he needs to grow up get his priorities straight and earn you back, give it time too it may be difficult but you dont need to babysit him you have other things to worry about and deal with right now if it is meant to be it will happen he needs to realize what he did and you need time to heal emotionally from it because the trust isnt going to be there only time can help so in the meantime take care of yourself, the baby have him show you he's responsible and see if he truly is
2007-01-10 19:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way do not go back sorry i know it isn't easy bring a child up on your own i done it with two. he has already done it well let him sling his hook for good and i hope it catches him where it hurts . Men tell the biggest lies to cover them selves i wouldn't believe he loves you sorry to be so hurtful but if he can see someone else when you where pregnant walk away live with someone while you are left holding the baby .And walk back into you life and probably think i am landed here she has forgiven me once i can do it whenever i like.to you and your lovely baby .Think what it will do to your baby having a par time daddy coming and going whenever he pleases cause all men do please them selves 100percent. You look after you little baby they don't stay babies for long . you will be able to get out and meet someone else.Remember anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a dad. Good Luck in the future
2007-01-10 17:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by kiarakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your child and forget him...You are worth so much more than what he has done to you! Don't think about him and just keep moving forward. Why hurt yourself anymore. Someone out there will love you for who you are and would never do that to you...Hes not a man hes a coward! You want and deserve something better!
Now go and play with that baby :-)
2007-01-10 19:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by momwhocares 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a question to answer quickly. You are the Mother of your child who will have to learn how to respect and treat women. You are now responsible for this up bringing. The father refused to bond with you as your body grew with his child and was cohabiting with another woman. Do you want your son to grow up and do as his father is doing?
If not keep your self respect, for your son needs to see this and learn trust. The issue of trust is the largest in a relationship especially with children. Allow the father to bond with your son if he wants to be involved. You and him will have to remain friends at least in front of your child.
Time will tell all with your torn relationship. If he can take the time out when the going got tough, he can also take the time it will take to earn your trust. Not by words, but actions and prove that he will not be interested in another woman. Give or take 2 years, if he continues to be proving himself to you then maybe you can consider an intimate relationship. In all of this do not ignore your true feelings to listen to his words they mean nothing to your heart.
2007-01-10 18:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tracey K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you love someone who treats you like you're not worthy of respect? Get some respect for yourself and realize this guy is out for what he can get at the moment. As soon as he's a little inconvenienced he'll be doin' some other chick.
2007-01-10 17:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by uknowme 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to put yourself through that again. He doesn't sound like a nice man to me and think about your son cause he will do it again how upsetting it will be for him to see you go through all that again. Dont do it there is a man out there for you who will love you and would never cheat on you good luck
2007-01-10 22:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH!! If he cheated on you once he will cheat on you again. Is that the type of relationship that you want? Is that the type of person that you want teaching your child morals as they grow up? Is that the type of environment you want your child raised in?You can love somebody but that does not mean that he is the right person for you or your baby. Think of your baby FIRST.
2007-01-10 17:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by shewolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately ..Move on! If he cheated on you when you were pregnant...who's to say he won't do it again. Sorry to say, You will Always Love Him* But you should move forward
2007-01-10 17:35:13 · answer #11 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋