ok, this is a couple of questions in one...
heres the info, i girl i dated my senior contacted me a couple of weeks ago asking how i was doing, anyways dat convo end it up with her saying she wanted another chance, but now she has a 3 month old baby which i dont mind at all, question how do i find out if she is looking for me or a father for the baby?
Also i have told her that if it works out i wouldnt want her to work, you know thats the way i was raised....but she wont take up on the offer, how do i get her to accept and be a stay home mom, if it would to work out?
2007-01-10 17:28:02 · 10 answers · asked by Mr. Right 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she was only lookin for a father for her bub then she would have taken your offer straight away. only time will tell tho so up to you. ya cant force her to stay at home either...thats her decision and if you really cared bout her and respect her you would respect that decision
2007-01-10 17:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound really intelligent and should already know the answer to your own question. What does it matter if she wants you to be the father to her baby if you are willing to allow her to be a stay at home mom anyway. She looked you up because she had time to miss you and realized that she made a mistake by letting you go the first time. I think you should give her a second chance and after a little while if it seems like she IS just using you then, dump her again.
2007-01-11 01:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to trust that what she feels for you is more than just looking for a daddy for the baby. If your gut instinct tells you that she is.....run like hell. Second, you seem to be already making plans for a future with her. Are you sure you're up to that? Spend some time with her and the baby to see if you're ready to take on the HUGE task of supporting a woman and a child. Not only that, you can't make her stay at home if it's going to make her unhappy.....what's wrong with her pitching in and working? It doesn't make you any less a man, it brings more money into the home and she's happy. Think about that before you try to "make" her stay home.
2007-01-11 01:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as far as the finding a father issue, just pay attention to how she acts with the relationship. See if she seems really interested in you as a man or you as just a father.
As for the other, my fiance is somewhat that way. He told me I never have to work...yet I'm too independent for that. We finally got it down to me not working while I'm pregnant (when the time comes) and a few years after our children are born. However, he knows I want to work...afterall I have a college degree. Let her work if she wants, it's nice when we're given the chance (as women) to not have to, but to lose our independence and have to depend on a man's allowance will never do for some of us...and her it sounds like.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 01:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a lady, but I have one and have had others in the past.
It's safe to assume that although she probably has feelings for you, she's probably realizing that it'll be hard for someone to take in a single mother and is reaching for past relationships because it's the safest bet. She could be lonely and might just want your support.
As far as convincing her to be a stay home mom, you shouldn't have to conince her of anything. If it was meant to be you'd agree on all the major issues. Don't take the bait and become victim # 2.
2007-01-11 01:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by radiozed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, being a stay at home mom is not for everyone. If she does not want to be one, then it is best to find a woman who wants to live like that. Because even if she did agree with it from the beginning, does not mean that she would remain happy. More than likely it would just make her miserable.
2007-01-11 01:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it took her awhile to call and tell you she wanted to be with you. A 3 month old baby later to be exact. Whenever you talk to her, pay attention to every single detail. The answer lies within. I once heard that communication and compromise are very important in every relationship. You should take this into deep consideration (as far as wanting her to stay home and "play" housewife).
2007-01-11 01:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by twinkles21 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should be happy with that offer.She gets all the time to raise her baby.talk to her and explain her the advantages of staying at home.
2007-01-11 01:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like she wants a father for her baby if she has just called u out of the blue... but that is just my opinion
2007-01-11 01:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Kassy M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she has a child she feels a responsibility to take care of her child.its hard to make it on one income.let her be her own person
2007-01-11 01:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by starr67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋