He is a great guy and iv tried to spice things up but im convinced he is just boring in bed!
Is this mean of me?
What should i do? I do not want to sleep with him any more
2007-01-10 17:25:02 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
any man worth keeping is open to suggestion, direction, and will ask for it if he's not getting the response he wants.
2007-01-10 17:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leaving a man you love over a problem in the bedroom is ridiculous! Talk to him about it and maybe see a sex therapist if that would help as well. Sex is only a PART of a relationship, just an extra! You can't base your life partner on it. People who wait until marriage have no idea what their partner is like, but you love them fully and have made that commitment so the fact that you love them inside and out makes the experience in itself enjoyable. If you fall in "love" with a person and decide they arent that much fun in the bedroom and thats your reason for moving on, then you never really loved them at all. It doesnt work that way. Im not sure of your situation, but if you are married to this man you need to take a good hard look at your marriage, but if he is your boyfriend and you are not in love with him at this point, then maybe you should seek other things. Don't marry a man for his tool or his wallet! haha You will never be truly happy!
2007-01-11 01:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by MJM2B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it's normal to loose intrest for a little while. We play sex for emotions and they play emotions for sex. I thought something was wrong with me, because my husband wouldn't quit bugging about it. It was driving me crazy and I think that made it worse. Finally I told him to quit bugging, he did and the drive has slowly come back. Don't just run off... as I tell everyone it is easy to walk but it is hard to stay and work things out, hence why we have such a high divorce rate. Perhaps he needs some help. Tell him the clothes don't come off till he gets you turned on or something...perhaps he'll put more umph in to the wining, dinning, and few other things to really get you going. If he is that boring get on top and take control, tie him up and torcher him, get some leverage...Good Luck and most of all have fun!
2007-01-11 01:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!iits such a pity that your man is a bore in bed but i think the problem lies with you.dont be offended coz this is what i mean;most of all you should sit down with your man and talk it over coz your man might think that he is supreme coz you have never said that he is a bore in bed.the next step is to intiate the first move eg,just try out some styles and be the first to initiate the moves and let him follow.let him lie on his back do your thing on top of him and tell him you need the same or much more and i gurantee you if you guy has a sane mind he will see what he's been missin.good luck
2007-01-11 02:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by david K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Train him. Tell him exactly what you like.... tell him, slow down, speed up, stop, lower, that doesn't feel good try this, etc. ...
Nobody is naturally good in bed, it's learned. A lot of people have the misconception that people should know what to do, and it's not true.... Think about your first time... were you nervous? Did you know exactly what to do? I'll say this: I didn't. It took me a couple times before I learned how to please my g/f. Spend some time showing him what turns you on and it will pay off later..
2007-01-11 01:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Calvin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's mean of you if he doesn't do it for you then he doesnt do it for you! the best way to do it is just to tell him who knows he may feel like he should spice things up you might actually make things work out for the best.
2007-01-11 01:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by Overkill310 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say but,....if you tried to spice things up and he's still boring in bed well, unless he magically transforms into into a super stud over night......you are going to have to move on. (i left a woman before cause she just didn't do it for me anymore, call me shallow but we are human and have needs and if all your needs are not met it's really not worth prolonging the realionship .......you have to think long term, are you willing to marry or spend your life not being happy?
2007-01-11 01:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by gothicblack@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don’t u people sit together and discuss the problem. It takes year to nurture a relation but just few second for break up
2007-01-11 01:29:43 · answer #8 · answered by Amit G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't sleep with him if he's not satisfying you to your standards. You're not being mean. If he's not willing to take suggestions then move on but, in his defense men can't read women's minds! Tell him what and how you want it!
2007-01-11 01:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what he needs to do to make it more exciting. He can't figure it out without you telling him "touch me here like this."
If you're just not attracted to him and that's issue, then it's over. Break up as you will -- or if you want to do it with as little guilt as possible, just act cold toward him, don't have sex with him, and he'll break up with you.
2007-01-11 01:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How have you tried to spice things up, may I ask?
2007-01-11 01:28:31 · answer #11 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋