I've liked a guy at my school for about 2 or 3 years. From what we've learned from one another, he's liked me too. Last year we both knew we liked each other but neither of us said anything and things slowly fell apart. He began to ignore me, and i didnt know why so I gathered up the courage to ask him one day. His "answers'' only raised more questions and left me confused and hurt. But I continued to talk to him, afraid of losing him as a friend. I was constantly afraid that I would start to like him again, because I didnt want to experience that same hurt all over again. But that's what eventually happened, and he seemed to like me back. I never told him that I liked him, and I dont know if i should.. but he's so hard to read and I can't figure him out. One day he seems to treat me like he really likes me, and the next day he spends the entire day talking to other girls. What am I supposed to do? Should I tell him how i feel and take the risk or just move on?
2007-01-10 17:05:54 · 17 answers · asked by lemonade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on sister. He doesn't like you no matter what he says. He just likes you when it is convenient for him. Don't waste your time with him just move on and you will defiantly find someone who likes you and wants to spend time with you all the time.
2007-01-10 17:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by amyiswaykoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a hard one, and let me tell you, I've been there. gathering from what you said about him being a guy at school, I'm going to assume that my boyfriend and I are a bit older than you guys, but we were in a similar situation. we had known each other for a very long time, and both wanted to date each other, but for some reason or another didn't think it would work (i was moving, we didnt want to lose each other's friendships etc). fortunately, he ended up doing the "asking" etc, but I had to give him an ultimatum first - either he do something or I was going to give up. it worked out well for me, but it's definitely a risk. you just need to decide if it's worth it.
2007-01-11 01:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by thigh_high_fishnets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the risk. It's obvious that one of you needs to take the lead and that seems to be you so, I would go for it. He is probably thinking the exact same thing about you and that's why he does what he does day after day. This is kind of a good thing for you because you will be the one in charge of how things work out. don't lose your courage now.
2007-01-11 01:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me he is either playing games or he is just as confused himself. I would say take a back seat and don't approach him to chat. Let him do all the leg work and approach you. If he really wants you as a friend then he will seek you out. By you approaching him you are stroking his ego. Guys love a challenge and if you stop looking for him and do your own thing, keep your silence, he will soon wonder what is going on and hopefully approach you. If he doesn't then you need to understand that his feelings are reciprocated and move on.
Good luck!
2007-01-11 01:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by JACQUI S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, try saying this to him, "I like you more than a friend but if you don't like me i REALLY still want to be friends without the wierdness." trust me. i did that before and i worked. i got the guy and he was verry understanding. if it feels too sappy to say like that then say it differently but make sure he knows in the first statement that you want your friendship so he knows. otherwise he will stop paying attention after, " Do you like me because i like you." thats how guys are. TAKE A RISK!!! it just may work out.
2007-01-11 01:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by natalie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on!!! most likely he will be surprised at the lack of attention he's used to getting from you, and then he will probably start showing you a lot more attention. A lot of times when guys start showing you a lot of attention, they become kind of unattractive and then you don't care if they like you or not. but who knows...anything can happen!
2007-01-11 01:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by Farah R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, your miserable. put yourself out of your misery and tell him you like him that way you know once and for all where you stand and then you'll know how to move on from there. your hurting yourself by not getting answers. your young and your heart will heal because you will remember that you will always treat others the way you want to be treated.
2007-01-11 01:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by sunshyne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
inexperienced immature school romances....everyone matures at different rates and so he seems to be happy enough playing the circuit. Id suggest you move on in another direction. You'll get over it kiddo. peace.
2007-01-11 01:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he realy likes you go ahead and take the risk. The truth will never be known if you don't take the chance.
2007-01-11 01:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by andrea0428@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are hard to read if he says he likes you go for it ask him to hang out one night on the weekend without the other pressures and distractions that come along with school.
2007-01-11 01:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by fiesty_smoldering_brunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋