I met this guy early november and we were dating for 2 months. I loved the fact that he treated me like a queen never pressured me for sex. A week ago we actually were intimate and he hasn't called me since!! I KNOW I didn't do anything wrong... he told me he loved me n' everything!! Why did he do that if I played hard to get for 2 months!! I thought guys liked that and it actually made them respect a girl. I hate him! Why do guys do that?
2007-01-10 17:00:55 · 14 answers · asked by kj_agui 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, "hard to get" isn't going to appeal to many guys, and it isn't really a sexual concept either. And if you think two months is "hard", you have something else coming. I dated a girl that made me sick to my stomach for three months because I couldn't work up the nerve to break up with her! I take it you're in high school, because that's when things like this usually happen. You need to stop giving it up until you're in a REALLY serious long-term relationship, or things like this are bound to keep happening. Don't get down on all guys . . . chalk it up to experience and move on. There are lots of bad guys out there, but there are also lots of good ones too. Good luck with the next one!
2007-01-10 17:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its weird that he would try so hard for two months and then just dissapear. A man wouldn't stay around that long if all he wanted was sex, and treat you so good in the process. I think there had to be something that happened between you two the day that it happened, or maybe it wasn't good and he didn't know how to tell you. I mean, he did not do the right thing by stopping calling you, so don't think I am taking his side at all. He is wrong, plain and simple. But two months...I think thats a good amount of time to wait...but no man with one thing on his mind would work so hard for that long, unless he couldn't get any for any one else.
2007-01-11 01:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate the player not the game. Sounds like he saw you as some sort of challenge and has probably moved on (or is dating multiple girls at the same time). Unfortunately making him wait a whole 2 months (which isnt a long time) would have just made it all the better for him. If you want a guy to respect you, dont fall for being told he loves you after a couple weeks.
2007-01-11 01:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mr W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously girl, you cant be that valnerable to give sex after 2 months of being together. He doesnt love you. What an asshole, but you put yourself in a hurful situation. You shouldnt give sex to someone youve nown that long. Respect your body and dont give sex for ages it takes time to love someone. Like years. Treat your body like a temple its such a special treasure to have, you should wait atleast a year to know the guy. Cos our bodies are beautiful and we should treat it with beauty. Sex can be so hurtful when its the wrong person remember your becomming one to every guy you have sex with. You should wait for that someone special. Youll know when its right. Protect your heart and soul girl. All the best sweety. move on and take my advice. xoxox
2007-01-11 01:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nat555 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2months is not really hard to play, you barely know the guy. maybe thats really all he wanted. if he treated you like a queen and right after yall have sex he stops calling than thats a big sign that all he wanted was sex. when a guy wants to get in between the legs he will show you "love" and be extra sweet.
have you tried calling him, i think you should ask him for an explanation!
2007-01-11 01:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, how long you wait has nothing to do with respect. I've had long-term girlfriends whom I bedded on the second date. Actually, you're better off getting the sex part over with quickly since that has a lot to do with whether we'll stay with you or not. It might sound brash of me to say but it's true. Remember that there's always someone around the block that will do whatever it is that you don't do. We won't starve ourselves while you figure out if you're going to go to bed with us. We'll get it somewhere else while you're figuring it out.
2007-01-11 04:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by D R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi girl!its such a pity that you might have over reacted by saying you hate him.the reason is this,maybe this guy thinks in his part that he messed by having an intimate moment with you and he is scared you might hate him for leading you to an intimate situation.the guy might also find it hard if it were his first time intimate moment.but most of all of what i think is that this guy is burning inside thinking that he has messed and the best way to show him thats its ok is by inviting him for a romantic dinner with all the things he likes and create an atmosphere where you 2 can romance and let him know its ok and you enjoy it.good luck
2007-01-11 01:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by david K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because hes an ***, and u didn't do anything wrong...how old r u...and if he ever comes back and says he sorry, don't forgive him and don't take this guy back...hes already got it from u once...he might try again and if he does, he will do the same thing...I'm really sorry that happened to u....when i was young, i used to do a 3 mth rule, if a guy will wait 3 mths then hes in it for the right reasons...but don't let him know u want to wait 3 mths just let him know u want to wait...he he goes the 3 mths and u feel he is true to u ...then go for it...Good Luck Hun
2007-01-11 01:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by eyesopen16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys like to see how many women they can get into bed for fun. Sex is a very emotional thing so before you do it make sure your able to handle what happens next.
2007-01-11 01:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the logic entirely myself, but it is true that some guys just like to have "conquests". They're not looking for true intacy, or even a reliable source of sex. It just strokes their ego to know they can get x number of women to do it with them. Disgusting, isn't it?
2007-01-11 01:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by harpy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋