I'm a young white girl. I wanna date this black guy. However, I don't know how my parents would take it. I know my grandpa wouldn't approve. I mean he likes blacks, but he believes that whites with whites.. blacks with blacks... I have always been trying to please my parents and grandparents. Not bragging.. but I am always on honor roll.. and I do anything I can to please them. I'm just worried that they would disown me if I brought home a black guy for them to meet.. and I am definately not dating him without their knowledge of it. So what do you think? especially parents. How would you feel if your daughter brought home a black guy?.. and I know my dad might have a hard time accepting it.. because I am his little girl.. so all of you dad's out there.. how would you feel if your "little" girl dated a black guy? I Thank You for Your Time. I will choose the best answer based upon your personal opinion. No matter if I agree with it or not.. just so it has good reasoning. Thanks.
2007-01-10 16:46:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd rather my daughter be with a black guy that treats her well instead of a white guy who treats her like crap. Ask your parents what they'd prefer.... they'll eventually see your point of view.
2007-01-10 16:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Calvin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Firstly let me say that you seem like a really sweet, nice, intelligent person with a genuine problem. Your situation reminds me of the old movie "Guess who's comming to Dinner" with Syndey Poittier, Spencer Tracey and Katherine Hepburn. If you havent seen it maybe you should. If you are serious about dating him, maybe you could rent the movie and watch it at home with your parents/Grandparents and when it was over ask them what they would think if you wanted to date someone of a different race. It would be a great way to ease into the conversation. These days its not such an unusual thing (thankfully) and you might be surprised that they wont have any objections to you dating the guy based on his race (you never know!).
2007-01-10 17:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by split_ess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good idea to talk to your parents or at least one of them about it, try and decide who would be more receptive to the idea of a black boyfriend and go to that parent first. If you just bring him home there may be an embarrassing exchange right in front of him. I'm sure you don't want to embarrass or insult your friend. I think that all parents would initially be concerned about the problems inherent in an interracial relationship as well as the stereotypical reputation of black men as being promiscuous. If your parents are concerned you might suggest that your first "date" be dinner at your house with your parents so that they can meet him and become more comfortable with the situation. This doesn't necessarily have to be about about his race you can steer everybody's thinking to be more about who HE is.
My cousin married a black woman and at first the whole family was really put off by the whole thing. A lot of family members felt that he had settled for a black woman since he couldn't find a white woman. When everybody met her, they understood. She is a beautiful woman with a winning personality and a smile that lights up the room, we all fell in love with her and she is now as much a part of the family as any of us.
2007-01-10 16:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by mommy333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents don't have a problem with you dating in general and you want to date this guy, do it. It's just dating, doesn't mean you two are going to necessarily get married or anything. You can start dating him and not "bring him home" until you are sure you really care about him. It'll be harder for your family to protest it if you two are in love than if you are just starting to go out.
People having the courage to stand up to their bigoted elders and do something like this is how the world is going to change for the better.
2007-01-10 16:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by red_necksuck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares what they think your growing up and you will make your own dessicions in life love that have to learn to let go... i had the same problem when my daughter was born i waited 5 months to tell my family that my daughter came out with blue eyes and brown skin due to the fact that her mom is white... but after they were told the excepted the fact that i dont and havent dated inside my ethnicity since i was 15... and i think your parents will do the same with you... as long as you dont bring home some hood ghetto a.s.s. guy with his pants around his knees and sh...it... you should be good...i dont think your family will look at the fact that he is black if they see that your new friend is well kept... then they wont have to worry that you will have a child at age 16 and that you will be doing drungs and some more issh...
2007-01-10 16:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Godson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, color and culture aside, that you are going to have to be able to get along with your family. They are your support system...unless theyve failed you in the past....dont worry what they think. Being a good student is something different, but common sense is what they'll bring up in such a case. Any time family members are faced with a potential relationship that they need to adjust to, some problems may arise. Love is not much of a consideration for them...they have to get to know the person on a different level than you can explain to them. good luck
2007-01-10 16:55:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know why white people see black as any other, there are alot of black males who are better and have way more than alot of these white guys, im a sister and i hate it when there is a sense of predjudice going on. Im glad i have the parents i do because they see no color, they wouldnt freak out if i bought home a white guy. ive dated white, black puerto rican and to me they are all the same. its you that have to go with your feelings your parents cant date for you. just talk yo them
2007-01-10 16:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 06:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a teenage son and a teenage daughter. I don't care if they bring home someone of a different race or even if they are in a same sex relationship. I care that they are happy and treated well. Love is so hard to find. I am not about to question WHERE my kids find it when the time comes.
2007-01-10 16:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_wretch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could care less if my daughter was dating an Black, Pink, Green, Yellow, Man or Woman as long as my Daughter is happy. You know your parents better than any of us strangers on Yahoo Answers so, go with your instinct, I hope you find the answer you are looking for.
2007-01-10 17:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by hurricanemercedes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My family is racist too (we're black) and they do not want anyone to bring home a white man. They feel the same blacks should be with blacks and white with whites. I say to hell what they say. You are the only one that can make you happy. You cannot go through life doing whatever it is they want you to. Do what makes you happy.
2007-01-10 16:50:37 · answer #11 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋