Sexual Frustration?

Question

I'am a 17 year old male and obviously sexually alert at my very peak, however i try my best to be religous and not commit sin. I've always read in religous texts not to have oral sex, view pornography, have sex, masturbate and even look at women lustfully. God has created me with these sexual urges, the very essence of my being, how am i just supposed to abandon all my desires? How am i supposed to deal with it without commiting sin? They tell us not to this this and this but not how to deal with the urges we get?

Answer 1

Ok, the bible really does not say anything directly about "oral sex, pornography, masturbation"- lust yes (lust is just as equal sin to murder) , sex (Be sexually pure until after marriage) yes
Yes you are created with sexual urges. Very true. It is the essence of your being, its the essence of all male's beings especially at your age. Ok heres how to abandon a desire
Pray- Pray Pray, Tell the Holy Spirit, Admit your wrong doings, or those you remember and acknowledge that you've done something wrong. Ask him to help you. When you need it, ask him to guide you to do what is right.
Then when you're feeling that urge, in the back of your head, tell the Holy Spirit, I'm falling, help me, etc. Ask for his help to stop.
Read your Bible. Instead of looking at porno on the computer, sit and read your bible for the hour or so u may be sitting there.
Just trust God, give this sin up and lay it at his feet.
Also, ask others to pray for you, dont tell them any details just say I just need some prayer right now...
I'll pray for you too....

Answer 2

Maybe you could look at it in the same light as you do other things in life. Maybe you'd like to have a new fancy car. You know that you could go steal one but would that be the right and acceptable thing to do? It doesn't have to be just a car, it could be anything you'd like to have. It's like that with a lot of things in life. Also, did you ever say, or hear someone say "I'd like to kill that person" Would that be the right, good, acceptable thing to do? Did they, or you, kill them? I would hope and imagine, that you refrained. You knew better. Do many people want to legally drive before the age of 16? I know I did. But I, like most people, had to wait. It's kind of the same with the problem your having. You know what's right and what's wrong. You know the problems that could be caused by it. Depending on the situation, problems such as: AIDS, wrecking a marriage, getting someone (the girls boyfriend or husband) VERY mad at you. Cause an early or unwanted. unplanned, pregnancy, etc. etc. etc. Try to get your mind on other things. Sports, education, study, music, playing an instrument, helping out somewhere-doing something, read..read the Bible and other Christian literature. There are a lot of ways to combat these sexual motives. Try to get your mind off of yourself, sexual desires, and put your mind and energy into other things. Love, meaningful relationships, sex, etc. will come at the appropriate time and way. No need to rush into it. .

Answer 3

You seem to have a real desire to plese god and that is great.

Realize though, that everything you just stated, god knows. He knows how difficult it is for you to resist these urges and knows that we are especially vulnerable in what the bible calls, "the bloom of youth". God is forgiving if we really repent when we sin and if we are putting forth every effort to avoid it.

The main thing that weakens resolve in this matter is what we expose ourselves to. Veiwing pornography, for instance, is going to make those urges extremely powerful and seemingly impossible to deal with. Try to find the things that you are exposed to during the day that give you problems and work on putting them aside.

Answer 4

Most Christian males I've ever known preferred masturbation, and seeking forgiveness later, over washing sticky sheets. Sorry I'm gross, but you asked a complicated question that required a direct answer. Your God made you who you are, and you are a beautiful, loving, sensuous person. Don't hate yourself for that. As you get older, you will learn how to apply your faith to your life in a more practical way. My faith is different from yours, but we all face the same basic problems- how do you follow your faith when it goes contrary to your biology? Well, God created your biology, and He knows it's difficult being a teenager. He's been one, too, remember? He came down to Earth as a Man so he could know what it's like. He suffered like you did. Difference was that He had God's patience and purity within him, and you are just an ordinary human. Just do your best and don't worry too much.

Answer 5

Get very active with your youth group at church. If you don't have one, choose a good one and get involved. Listen to much Christian music instead of any other. Surround yourself with Christian company. Knowing that these urges are a problem, avoid being alone with a girl. Speak to your Youth Pastor and ask them to pray with you. Confess out loud that, 'I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me.' Run from sin. And yes, abstain from everything you mentioned above. You can do it, I'm praying for you.

See, there are many things you can do, there are no excuses. How about this...don't do it because you love The Lord so very much that you don't want to do anything that would grieve The Holy Spirit. PEACE!!!

Answer 6

Well, consider the fact that the Bible was written a LONG time ago. Back before humanity was as overpopulous as it was and many, many children died in childbirth. It makes more sense for people to want others to procreate when you are forever in fear of your race dying out. But look at humanity now. It's has reached swelling proportions and those who do live often have worse times than those who don't. I believe masturbation is easily justifiable now, and it is a very natural thing to do. God wouldn't make it an unnatural thing, and I doubt He/She/It cares if you do. And, without lust how would babies get born? Be lustful, just don't be a sexual predator. Though, I'm not advocating promiscuous sex, just not to feel ashamed of being attracted to people.

Answer 7

If you believe what the bible teaches, thinking about any of these things is as bad as doing any of these things so, since you have already sinned, you might as well do it for real. After all, you know you are condemned by Adam's sin and no amount of good works can make up for it. Only your faith can save you. So be sure to praise Jesus at the climactic moments.

Or just realize that it's all natural and the supernatural just gets in the way.

Answer 8

Yes, sometimes it seems he over engineer his projects. I really don't know what to say here.

I'm 48 and still see an attractive woman and think Oh baby!, then feel guilty.
This is every man's battle and there is a book of this title out there and it is about these very topics.
Don't feel alone.
When you are married however, you should enjoy one another to the fullest level. Whatever you both agree on. Revel in one another. Don't think you are not to enjoy sex with your mate, you most definately are.

Good luck brother

Answer 9

Hold tight little bro'.

You don't wanna hear this but what you're going through is natural and to be expected. You're right, God DID give you those urges but they are to be enjoyed only in the marriage relationship.
How important is God to you?
Important enough to deny yourself to be faithful to Him until the time is right for you to experience these things properly?
God is trying to protect you from losing yourself by casual sex and masturbation which is selfish and only teaches you to please and think about yourself and not your wife.

Here's some good news:
"There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it."
I Corinthians 10:13

That means you're not going through anything different from the rest of us and more importantly, God ALWAYS provides and escape door so that you don't have to fall into sin.

Be strong!
Love God!
Hate sin!

Joshua 1:9
"Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest."

Answer 10

What particular "religious texts" are you reading? Not all religions tell people to refrain from all those things. This doesn't mean you should necessarily go for whatever religion you find "easiest" to follow just for the sake of keeping things easy, but do keep in mind there's much more than one option out there when it comes to religion. If you truly believe in God, and that God would not create you with these feelings and at the same time expect you to deny them, maybe you'll find more strength in a different religion.