2007-01-10 16:38:33 · 24 answers · asked by julvert h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really need to go to http://www.niceguys.org/ to take a look at their analysis of the problem. There's one for nice girls too (gasp! are there really any nice girls?): http://www.nicegirls.org/
If you want the gist of the reason, it is that women don't find nice guys to be enough of a challenge. And as it turns out, most nice guys give them way too much attention to be a challenge. But the bastards that women typically date treat them like trash, so they get this notion that they're a real challenge, that they can stand on their own feet, etc. I know it's stupid of them, but that's the way it is.
If you want a more detailed analysis, you should read up in this guy's advice columns:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/
http://www.doclove.com/
He has a book . . . it's pretty expensive, but I think it's worth it if you honestly don't understand women. The guy also has a radio show:
http://www.worldtalkradio.com/show.asp?sid=202 (archives)
http://www.wsradio.com/internet-talk-radio.cfm/shows/The-Doc-Love-Show-Understanding-Women-For-Men-Only-.html (current)
Good luck!
2007-01-10 16:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys are not unlucky with women, Nice guys have to wait for the women to come out of thier abusive relationships with the Bad Guys.
2007-01-10 16:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are nice girls unlucky with men? I consider myself a nice girl and I can't seem to find a nice guy. When I start to think that finally I found some nice guy he just does something that shows me he was just pretending to be nice so that he could get some. And what's your definition of a nice guy?
2007-01-10 17:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by cassie86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their not, it's the women who are unlucky! Keep being a nice guy, and you will find a nice girl who will appreciate you.
Most of us women have to be treated like **** before we appreciate a good man!
2007-01-10 16:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because these women are attracted to bad boys and after they have been abused by bad boys, they come running back to nice guys who really don't want anything to do with them.
Smart women know what I am talking about.
2007-01-10 17:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a mindset that is developed from a really young age. A girl is always looking for her "Prince Charming". The guy who has to fight the dragon to free his princess. I don't know about you, but I haven't seen very many "nice" guys fighting dragons. Woman don't necessarily want the bad boys, just someone that appears capable of being their hero. Someone a little "dangerous" or mysterious. Nice guys are generally friends, and friends are predictable.
2007-01-10 16:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bob Peppers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think women are not attracted to nice guys. I think that women are more attracted to confident men. The so called bad boys seem to have more confidence also that badness about them switches on a woman's nurturing instincts. It makes us feel we have to help them and give them love they sometimes don't deserve. Try to be more confident, out going, and unpredictable. This will make a woman want to find out more about you.Then by the time she finds out she has a nice guy she'll already be in love.
2007-01-10 16:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by quel772o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just don't notice those nice girls. Im a nice girl and no guy has ever asked me out because there afraid. They just stare and never do nothing. Don't be those guys if you like a girl don't just stand there, do something. If you get rejected, that girl is missing out and was probably not your soul mate. Just keep searching and good luck.
2007-01-10 16:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Questions 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question to which many guys, including myself, would really like to know the answer. Better yet, we'd like to know how to become the "bad boy" type that women seem to prefer.
2007-01-10 16:45:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys aren't unlucky with women because they're "nice." They're unlucky because they think they're nice but really aren't, or because there's something else about them--like total social inadequacy--that turns women off, and they tell themselves it's because they're "nice."
2007-01-10 16:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋