I'm a single 34 year-old successful, attractive professional guy. I have a handful of female friends with whom I engage in on-going safe sexual activity. I have known these women anywhere from 6 years to 3 months. I see them each roughly 2-4 times a month, sometimes more sometimes less depending on our schedules, etc. At no time have I ever expressed any kind of "exclusiveness" with any of these women nor do they ask for it or even bring it up as a topic of discussion with me. I do not pretend to be their "boyfriend" and they don't seem to me to be acting like a girlfriend. We are simply friends that engage in safe, sexual activity. We have a good time together and then go our separate ways until the next time. I have a female friend that is aware of my sexual habits and thinks I'm "abnormal", that there is something wrong with me. I tell her that I'm doing what many (if not most) men would like to do. In her words she's "disgusted" by it. I think it's great life. Comments?
2007-01-10 16:30:09 · 7 answers · asked by D R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are happy with your lifestyle and relationships, then it is normal for you. You are living the life most single men would love to live in my opinion. As long as you are honest with these women and yourself and you are happy, go for it!
2007-01-10 16:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by livingstonseagull43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sound healthy to me!! Especially to put up with all those women!! LOL Some people are always going to have an opinion about how you live your life but as long as you are being safe and smart about it you shouldn't worry about what others think. Maybe what she meant was that maybe you are just afraid of commitment. And if thats not it you just havent found that someone in your life that will make you want to stop those habits of yours. Don't worry about it men are supposed to sleep around quite often.
2007-01-10 16:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an interesting term for the behavior you are engaging in: narcissistic supply. It's nothing short of extreme ego gratification. Google it, and I believe you will find an apt description of your personality type. You are a consumer of affection, and I would have to wonder how you would feel if you are left with a) one partner only for a short period of time, not on an ongoing basis, "girlfriend" defined or not; or b) no sexual partners for a prolonged period of time.
My guess is that you would undergo a type of withdrawal associated largely with those who are addicted to other substances: you may feel depressed, anxious, panicky, eager and even desperate to seek out the attention you so desperately crave.
Sorry, but that's how I see it. I'm not going to label you as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder because I ain't no shrink, but you definitely have narcissistic tendencies. Good luck with that.
2007-01-10 16:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have friends with benifits (I'm female), all the time(when I was about 20--now I'm a married mommy)...I even had one guy in my room and another in my family room, within 2 minutes of eachother....it is great....just be safe, and be careful... When I first saw just your question, I was going to say nowadays it seems normal for a married man to have multiple on-going partners as well as single men..:) Just be safe.
2007-01-10 16:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by next PO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! Your normal. And i applaud you for keeping it real. Don't lie about the truth even with your lady friends. If you've been straight with them and told them your not exclusive then carry on. Maybe your just one of those guys who aren't ready for a serious relationship. when you are the "spreading of your seed" has got to stop.
Personally, when you've had too many sexual partners it takes it's toll in the long run.
2007-01-10 16:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by sunshyne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy yourself as long as everyone is having fun and understands it is just lust, than hey have the time of your life.
2007-01-10 16:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's normal, but it's not right. But I think you already know that.
2007-01-10 16:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Nisey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋