My Mom and dad!?

Question

Okay my Mom told me today that she wants to split up with my Dad!Because for about 2 weeks he has been sitting on the couch doing nothing he has been rude to my mom!Like he has said it was your fault we lost our old house and the first thing he asked her today was did you wash my laundry!And my Mom is getting upset by the way he treats her!So she wanted me to ask should leave him or stay?

Answer 1

If this has been going on for just two weeks, tell her to talk to him. Find out what's going on, he may be stressed out at work, or it could be something more serious. I would never just up and leave, unless this has been an ongoing problem . . . .abusive.

Also, I don't think it is right for your Mom to put you in the middle, she should find her own friend to talk with and not diminish your relationship with your dad.

Answer 2

That depends on if they still love each other. Money issues is the #1 reason for divorce. If your mother handled the bills and lost the house, yes he should be upset. But you said he has sat on the couch for 2 weeks so does he work? If not and he doesn't want to and he orders her around, they should either seek counseling or split.

Answer 3

The thing is, being married is forever, in good times and bad. Just because your Dad is depressed doesn't mean your Mom has ground to leave him. The Bible says you are only allowed to divorce your spouse if your spouse has committed adultry. Your parents are going through a rough patch. Your mom should maybe approach him and ask him to share his worries and concerns with her and in the same moment she should try to share her worries and concerns with him. She must try not to have a screaming match. It will only make things worse. She must also try to remind him that they and you, are a family, you are all in this together, and together you should try to work things out. If talking doesn't work that well, try getting your Dad to marriage councelling and later on go as a family to Family councelling. Tell your mom not to throw the towl in so easily. She must just try a little more. Never look to divorce as an option. It could just turn out to be the worst thing to do. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I just can't believe she didn't ask this question herself, instead she put you up to it.

Your dad has been sitting on the couch just for two weeks? So he is without a job? He should be looking for a job if he is the breadwinner in the home. If there are bills etc....to be paid and he is the only provider, then he should seek work.

If his behavior has been going on before they were married, then she shouldn't have married him. But if it happened while being married, then maybe they both should seek marriage counseling together. It takes two to tangle. It is both of their faults for behaving like this. They seem to be acting like kids!

Now, if he is verbally abusive, or physically abusive, then she needs to ask him to leave the home, for you and for her safety.

Otherwise, it does take two to tangle. She probably needs to work on her attitude and he needs to work on his. They both need to help each other out. If they want to stay married, then they will do what it takes to have a good relationship. Tell her to do it for the sake of you. You shouldn't have to put up with their behavior either when they should be happy. Their behavior is not a good example for you.

Hope this helps!

Answer 5

It is unfortunate that your parents have lost respect for each other. They need to sit down and communication like adults. She needs to be honest about how he makes her feel. If he's the man of the house I'm not sure how he could blame your Mother for the loss of a home. He needs to be a man and stand up and take responsibility for his family. Maybe your Mother's words will hit home and he will knock off the nonsense. This is a marriage heading for disaster if he does not grow up. If he choses not to then your Mother deserves better. My best advise: Pray

Answer 6

Well, tell her ABSOLUTELY NOT! it's not the best thing for the sake of the family. Tell her you need both Mom & Dad to grow up right want the family to stay together. Just because someone is lazy & disrespectful, it should not be grounds for divorce. Tell her she should try to work it out with him. In marriage, tell her to remember "in good times & in bad times"

Answer 7

IF YOU AND YOUR MOM ARE UNHAPPY, THEN THERE IS NO
REASON WHY BOTH OF YOU SHOULD STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR DAD. IF HE IS VERBALLY ABUSIVE
TO BOTH OF YOU. I KNOW IT IS A TUFF DECISION TO MAKE
AND IF YOUR MOM HAS MADE HER MIND ,THEN THERE IS
NO REASON WHY SHE SHOULD STAY WITH HIM. STAYING
WITH HIM WILL NOT MAKE A HAPPY HOME, IT WILL ONLY
GET WORSE. LIVING WITH SOMEONE THAT YOU DON'T LOVE ANYMORE MAKES THING COMPLICATED AND IT WAS
NICE THAT SHE ASKED YOU FOR YOUR OPINION, BUT IN
THE LONG RUN SHE JUST DIDN'T WANT YOU TO THINK
THAT SHE WANTED TO RUN OUT OF HER MARRIAGE
BECAUSE OF YOU OR YOU HAD ANYTHING TO DO WITH
IT. NO IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT, IT WAS BETWEEN HIM
AND HER. THEIR LOVE JUST FADED AWAY AND HE BECAME RUDE AND STARTED BLAMING HER FOR A LOT
OF THINGS THAT ONLY THEY KNOW. SO LET IT BE AND
DON'T FOR GET YOU CAN VISIT YOUR DAD AND MOM. I'M
NOT SURE WHOM YOU ARE GOING TO PICK TO LIVE WITH
BUT THAT WOULD BE UP TO YOU. SO GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

oh tell your mom i am so sorry. my mom and my dad split a long time ago. he abused her and everything! tell your mom to talk with your dad..maybe something is on his mind. Maybe he is holding something in. no i dont think they should dplit up right yet. people go through things in marriage but everythime someone goes through something dosent mean that you need to split if you love this guy have a serious talk with him and ask him to please try to change and ask him if anything is bothering him. i wish your mom and dad the best of luck!!!!

Answer 9

She should stay and try to work things out with your Dad. This does not seem like a pattern so it may be just a temporary phase that they are going through.

She should try to work things out for your sake at least.

Answer 10

Your mom needs to discuss this problem with your dad. It's not your place to be involved in such decisions. If they;re unable to resolve their issues with each other by themselves, then perhaps they need to consult a professional to help them get thru this period. Obviously neither one of them sound happy. And need to have some beneficial discussions between them.