Why does everything have to be so difficult?

Question

My boyfriend and I can't find a job because of this town we live in, so how are we supposed to move out when we don't have money because this town has no jobs? How are we supposed to start our lives? We would move to a diffrent city to look for a job but we also don't have a car because we can't find a job!! What can we do?? Please help!!!

Yes I have worked at the fast food restaurants and in hard-working factories, but they are all temp jobs. Thanks for helping. I know I can get my life started in the right direction. Maybe I should just go to college. I dont know but whatever it is, it'll come to me.

Answer 1

You might look into the use of public transportation to get a job outside of town, earn enough money to move closer to the job, and then save money toward a car.

It's the long way, but if nothing else is working, it might be your only choice.

Answer 2

Depends on what kind of job you are looking for. If you want the high paying 20-30 dollar an hour jobs, you might be setting your expectations too high. All towns have jobs. Your criteria of a job might not fit into what is available.
Unfortunately, unless you are born to royalty or into an incredibly wealthy family, you will have to start at the bottom and work your way up. It sucks, but it's a start. The key is to get experience and if that experience is flipping hamburgers and asking do you want fries with that, then that's where you should start.
College is of course another option, but not all folks are desirous of an education. And not all higher education leads to a fabulous paying job either.
My suggestions, ask yourselves what you want to do and is it realistic? The reality of it is that you have to not be afraid to start somewhere even if it is at the bottom of the totem pole. Don't turn your nose up at minimum paying jobs, they will get you your foot in the door and from there anythings possible.
Life's not always fair, but it wasn't meant to be that way either.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I agree with many of the respondents in that EVERY town has jobs. They may just not be jobs that are attractive to you. Guess what kiddo- we all do what we HAVE to do until we can do what we WANT to do. Try offering to help people in your area with odd jobs- taking down christmas lights, cleaning out basements, organizing closets etc, if you don't want one of the jobs available. If you don't want to do regular college, try a vocational program at a junior college. Save EVERY penny and then make a relaistic plan about moving out on your own. It's a LOT more expensive than you think and though right now your parents amy seem like the most oppresive tyrants on the planet, their home is still better than you can do on your own right now.

Answer 4

You should be focusing on you, not "we", not "my boyfriend and I" or starting "our" lives.

Focus on YOU and YOUR life and how you will achieve your goals. By all means, include your boyfriend in your strategizing and assist him with his job search when you can but you should be concerned with you becoming gainfully employed. This will afford you the opportunity to be a contributing member of society and a responsible adult that can then focus on having a wonderful relationship with her boyfriend.

Not knowing your age, location or skills, it is difficult to suggest anything specific. There is work to be had if you search for it.

Searching for employment, in itself, is a fulltime job. Are you out everyday, dressed for an interview and approaching every hiring authority available to inquire about the possibility of an opening that you may be suited for? Don't look in the newspaper and simply call. That isn't a job search.

I would recommend that you be honest with yourself and assess whether you have done everything imaginable to find work. If the answer is no, which I suspect it may be, then you've got to do what it takes!

You'll feel so proud of accomplishing this for yourself. Not your boyfriend, not for "our lives", but YOUR life.

Wishing you all the best! You deserve it!

Answer 5

I have emerged from a situation far worse than yours! At 17 I ran away from home because I could not get along with my father. Without a penny in my pocket, I worked part-time earning slightly above minimum wage at a department store after school. I had to support myself while trying to finish high school. I graduated high school with honor, 4.0 GPA! That's not because I am smart. It's because I worked hard and did not stop try hard. At that time I also had to give financial support to my ailing mother. Life was hard, harsh, and my burden was heavy. But I loved my mom and wanted to be successful. So I tried.

Then I found a clerical job from a temporary employment agency, gained experience from there, later applied for another jobs in a similar industry. From there my career gradually progressed higher. My regret is that I could not finish my college education; however, I am now making about $70K a year. I considered myself lucky but not without a lot of hard work and endurance.

So, believe in yourself. Start a fire in your heart, will yourself up, make a big effort to try, to work hard, to endure, and soon you will have what most people in this country have.

I have emerged from a situation much worse than yours, and now I consider myself successful and happy. Hope you will be the same or even better.

Answer 6

I understand im in same situation.pray to God and do things according to His way of seeing things and u will be Blessed:)
sounds like corny advice when ur struggling........ but im also stuck in small town..no car...... now i can walk to places....... a long walk............. frustrating when buses and lightrail ARE "close" but just NOT close enough to walk or anything...... a taxi to the nearest transport wpuild be $10 a day at least.....and an airport with great jobs is nearby..10 minute drive in an hour and a half on the public transprt after I taxi to it lol
or $25 to the airport by taxi
I can walk one mile to a grocery store.if chances are they are hiring and save for MONTHS yipee yay..and poeple say dont complain............ how can u not?
it may very well be they are NOT hiring then what? the bills u acquire while working add up..... I cant live anywhere for "free" not even with family.

Answer 7

if you are good person ,all the people hire you.but when you lazy and not trusted so don't try. but to find a job you have to work this job(looking for a job)which is a littel pit hard but you have to do it first .so everyday pass on many places asking for job.
if you work in this job for seven days a week you will find the job.

Answer 8

If you cannot find what you seek. Stop looking in the same place. Since we don't know where you live, it is difficult to specify a solution. You may have to look at jobs you never would have considered before. You might be surprised and find something you really like. I wish you the best.

Answer 9

Go to school. Even if you can't find a job, you'll still be doing something productive.

Answer 10

I think its because your a jackass. By the way you type I'm sure thats why. Or maybe you imagine things? Maybe forget to take your meds?