the man or the woman you are in a relationship with you because of money? what actions or facts do you based on.
thanks
2007-01-10 16:11:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i asked because i know of someone close whom i feel the other partner is in all for money but i dont want to jump to conclusion.
and yes i always prefer on going dutch with a date. but it doesnt hurt once in a while to spend on him and vice verse...
2007-01-10 16:50:13 · update #1
If they offer to pay for stuff, too, then they are not in it for the money. If my boyfriend paid for the movie, I would spring for the popcorn and candy. If I made the date plans, I would pay for the dinner or whatever we did.
2007-01-10 16:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes you can't because they hide it so well. But look at the persons actions? Are they constantly asking you for money outright without promise to pay it back? And even if the person promised, have they paid you back? Is the person considerably unhappy when they don't get nice things somewhat often or when you do get them something, they don't like it because it is cheap? The answers won't be as outright as the questions make it sound, but for, lets say, a month keep track of these things. Then confront him/her
2007-01-10 16:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by azel951 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll if they agree to pay once in awhile and also if there not always trying to get you to buy expensive stuff all the time.MMM or even if they have sex with you and then they try to be cute and tell you how much they really want something you know like jewelry.And you can tell when someone is fake or being real to you pay attention don't let anyone take advantange of you get rid of the person before they hurt you really bad.Dont allow yourself to be blind,you know the answer only you know.
2007-01-10 16:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by marty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to start wondering if I'm always the one picking up the check. If I pay for the dates, the cofees, the beers, buy his clothes and end up loaning him money. I support myself, and I expect anyone I"m involved with to support themselves, as well.
If I keep hearing that he can't do anything that costs money - dinner, movie, whatever, then I let it ride, and suggest something free rather than pick up the tab. If he's okay with free and stays that way, odds are good, he's here for me. If he's with me for money, he'll make some comments, or act in a way designed to make me feel guilty or cheap for not footing the bill. Or borrow money from me.
Trust your instincts on this one!
2007-01-10 16:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Just 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell them one day that you have just lost your job or got laid off and gonna be off for work for a while with no money and if they leave you alone, talk to you less, don't return ur calls it was for the money/ If they all ways wanna go shopping with your money or want you to buy all kinds of expensive things with your money. Ask them to buy you something or lend you some money when you know they have money and they have a thousand excuses y they can not give you the money they are with you for your money but not willing to give you their money in time of need.
When they all ways asking you for money for this and that it is for the moeny, etc.
2007-01-10 16:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they never pay for anything and expect the person to pay for everything I know that as a woman I appreciate almost expect the man to pay or to go dutch at first but then after the first or second date I would pay half such as if we go a to a dinner and a movie I might pay for the movie and he pay for dinner if we didn't go dutch I a person expect the person to pay all the time then they might be in the relationship for money another sign is that they want you to take them shopping and pay for things or to pay there bills things like that.
2007-01-10 16:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't have money, so I have never been used in that way. Nor have I ever dated anyone who had any significant amount of money. But I have seen it happen first hand to a friend of mine. His girlfriend never wants to just chill with him at home. She always wants to go out and she picks the most expensive places. She always comes at him with a sob story about something she needs and manipulates him into buying it for her. Always complains she never has any money. She brags to friends about things he buys for her, but never brags about HIM or the time they spend together. Bottom line...don't date anyone who isn't at the very least self-supporting.
2007-01-10 16:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by abbylynnt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not in it for the money. We spent 2 and half years building a strong relasionship base on trust, respect, and just being best freinds. That is the way to do it!
2007-01-10 16:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person you are with likes to spend a lot of money then they probably only want you for your money. If the person you are with never asks you for anything knowing that you have the money to spend then they are the keeper.
2007-01-10 16:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by sammie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's as simple as them making money an outstanding issue in the relationship. Girls I go out tend to let me pay sometimes and then other times they pay or we split the bill. It should never be about buy me this or buy me that, if it is then that may be all she wants out of you.
2007-01-10 16:16:52 · answer #10 · answered by KEVIN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋