i have these two friends one i really like right now and his name is bob and the other one i use to like and his name is Joe. well bob and joe dont get along. they are both my good friends but they hate each other. They always fight because they both want to be with me. i want to be with bob but joe throws a fit. Joe use to be my really good friend and i told him everything now joe has become ruid and everything i have told him he has held it agenst me. i tell Bob things and he helps me out. Bob treats me like a lady and he is so polite. I want Joe to leave but i can never get him to leave. What should I say to make him leave. i just found out Bob likes me and he knows i like him. i want to be in a relationship with Bob but i want Joe out of the Picture. is there anything i can do. or am i just being way to crazy abotu everything. Please get back to me.
2007-01-10 16:10:17 · 8 answers · asked by heritagedancer_333 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not being crazy. Joe is. I would start out by sitting him down and explaining why you can't be friends anymore or that you just need a break for awhile. His temper, the fact you have someone new, how this friendship can't work because he can't get along with Bob, how he's being rude. It sounds like Joe is not only jealous, but realizes he doesn't have that same friendship with you that he used to so he's lashing out. Maybe hearing his side of things would help and then you can compromise your time with him (if Bob's ok with that). If it doesn't get any better just don't answer the phone, don't talk to him period. You'll eventually weed him out.
How I look at it though, your relationship with Bob is a lot more important. Joe is having problems and he needs to deal with it his own way if he can't stop acting like a baby. You don't want Bob to leave because you can't leave this guy alone. Eventually Bob won't put up with it and leave. Good luck!
2007-01-10 16:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving mixed signals. I wonder if you like the fighting over you. Walk away from both men. Let the air clear stop coming between 2 friends. if Bob still wants you after you had some space he will find you again in time.
It is very possible that after a while they will decide to bury the hatchet and realize having you come between them is not worth it. Your obligation right now is to Joe to end it amicably because your relationship has gone wrong not because you found a new playmate.
2007-01-11 00:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by CAE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to stop worrying over things that you can't control, unless of course, you enjoy the attention of these 2 wanting to be with you,
Tell Joe to get lost if he's throwing things back in your face and live happily ever after with Bob.
2007-01-11 00:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bob good. Joe bad. You attention-seeking.
Freeze Joe out - don't be where he is. He sounds a bit unstable anyway.
Hurry up and resolve this or you are going to lose your chance with Bob the Good.
2007-01-11 03:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make it clear to Joe, tell him that you want to start a relationship with Bob (as they hate each other I think you shouldn't mention Bob's name to prevent fights). Tell him that you want him to stay out of the picture but remember tell it to him politely and by giving him hints. Another hint to make him understand this is to stop texting frequently, stop calling him, when he calls you, tell someone else to answer his call and make the answerer tell him that you're not at home. After some time he will stop trying to contact you, believe me hun.
Good Luck hun with your coming relationship and hope this helps
2007-01-11 02:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Falcon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think youre playing with fire, its not like theyre 2 female friends who dont liek each other,at school my best mate was a lso friends wiht this B-tch I didnt like, she was stuck up, snotty - and just plain - plain, really couldnt stand her at all, only thing that stopped us getting into a fist fight was my best friend! Anyway 22 years on, my best friend -is still my best friend, and that B-tch got married, squoze a couple of puppies out and moved away . Still my best friend has a new friend now - but this ones ok............
2007-01-14 22:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him its over time 4 him to move on if he is stalking call the law
2007-01-11 00:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they duke it out and one pulls out a can of spinach...get back!
2007-01-11 00:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by KM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋