im close to suicide,very close,but not that close,im from london,all i need its friend,im lonly,help me please

Question

i dont have no friend,im alone in this world,no matter whos gona be ma friend,girlz or boyz.i know 160 peaple dying evry day ,59 000 000 per year.and other thing if i have to die someday,so why not today..
need friend talk to.
I tryed to find them in chating room and other web sites.but no nothin.
dont scare me,im not mad.im just so tired.sometimes im scareing even think about suicide...but when i see iv got nothing to lose..i think i better go for it

Answer 1

hi please dont i nearly did ill be your friend

Answer 2

Yes, you DO have a friend. If there's any thing I can do to help, I will. Unfortunately I'm not God (yet!) but I'll do my best to NOT let this happen.

Been there. Many years ago. I know it feels like nobody else understands how you are feeling but that really isn't true. I don't know if it's the same for you, so I'll just describe my experience briefly, if you can relate to it, it might help knowing that someone does empathise.

To cut a very long story short: when I tried it I'd spent months unable to concentrate on anything for more than a minute or two, no matter how hard I tried to distract myself . I constantly broke down, anything set it off. That time period was was so hideous that I've blocked most of it out for self-protection, it's all one big blur now.

Well, I'm still here 12 years on, and although we are all different, I know what you're going through as much as anyone else who's been there. My friends abandoned me back then because they couldn't handle it, so I know what it is like to have nobody, or at least to feel that way. Please talk to us here, if you want I will give you my email address. People DO care for you and I want to help you through this, as do many others here.

Please call one of the crisis lines:
Samaritans Helpline: 08457 90 90 90 (or 08457 909192 for people with hearing and/or speech difficulties).
They are available 24 hours a day and provide a completely confidential service.
Calm A helpline for young men with depression or who are suicidal. Tel: [phone]
Depression Alliance Tel: [phone]
Manic Depression Fellowship Tel: [phone]
MIND Tel: [phone]
SANE Saneline: 0845 767 8000


To flames: Saying that suicide is cowardly is totally unhelpful - sorry, I don't mean to be rude, but it's something people say when they don't have a clue what it's like. When you are too desperate to form a sentence or get through an hour, let alone live from day to day, being told that has no positive effect whatsoever. I'm not arguing with the point that suicide is no solution, though. Most atyempts don't work and cause more problems than before. Of course it is devastating for the family... it's been 12 years and I still haven't got over the guilt for what I put them through. It must be hard to understand and I'm not saying that it isn't horribly selfish, but being suicidal just isn't as simple to get through as your post made it sound.

Answer 3

Hey.
You know, even when you feel like being alone in this world and can't take this sadness or a pressure no more, you have to also understand that what you're fighting with are also fighting a lot of people around the world. Some of them don't have a family, or an animal or anything. They are just there. Some of them even without television, a phone or anything like it. Cruel - but it doesn't solve your problem, does it? I know. I'm not an expert or anything :) Just trying to share a first thought.
And I'm always glad to talk to you :))
[e-mail] is my mail, and
[e-mail] is my MSN (am online).

I have just posted this question about What are people's thoughts these days and what song describes it the most..

I guess, we were somewhere on near level at the moment :)
Keep ON,

Love,
n_101135449

Answer 4

Chat Rooms--What Should I Know About Them?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2005/9/22/article_01.htm *

Chat Rooms---How Can I Avoid the Dangers?
http://www.watchtower.org/e/20051022/article_01.htm

What Is Your Life >Really< Worth ... ?
http://watchtower.org/e/20050201/article_01.htm

Alone but Not Lonely :
- Why So Many Lonely People?
- When No One Will Ever Feel Lonely Again
- What You Can Do About Loneliness http://watchtower.org/e/20040608/article_01.htm

How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm

How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep your Life Simple
- Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/3/1/article_02.htm *

Hope--Where Can You Find It? :
- Does Hope Really Make a Difference?
- Why Do We Need Hope?
- You Can FIGHT Pessimism
- Where You Can Find REAL Hope!
http://watchtower.org/e/20040422/article_01.htm

* (NOTE : these URLs will likely be modified soon. After that, each title can be entered in the Advanced Search engine at : http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm , which will give you a link with the new URL for that sub/title.)

Answer 5

Try getting into an activity that you enjoy, like a club or something. That way you will make friends who have the same interest as you.
Suicide is not the way to solve your issues, it's just an easy escape route from everything. I've been there too and i know it's not easy, you need to seek professional help.
You should go and talk to your local doctor about how you feel and see if they can recommend you to a psychiatrist. If your doctor doesn't get it then tell someone else and keep telling people until someone gets it. Getting help is not a weakness, it's a strength.
Best of luck and hope you feel better soon.

Answer 6

First of all EVERY SINGLE PERSON in this world go through a lonely stage in their life! It will pass...:-)))So that is normal... Secondly you do need to speak with a professional as they will become your friend and support you!!! Thirdly life is mostly what YOU make of it... Get out there do stuff... Travelling is a great way to meet people! Go on a singles holiday... You need to exercise as it is a proven fact that excercise releases the feel good hormones and if you join a gym or an excersice class than thats a great way to meet new friends too... What about evening classes so you are not sitting home alone and bored... Salsa dancing classes is a great way to a keep fit and meet new people while having fun... Yoga is fantastic for clearing the mind and thinking clearly plus you get to meet people... You can volunteer work for RSPCA or National trust etc... Try getting out of London on the weekends.. You can travel to the coast or country... I travel alot on my own and you always meet more people than if you went with someone...There are a lot of activity weekends you can do... Get off the Computer and get out of the house and do stuff!!! Even if it's the libaray, you local swimming pool or just go to a cafe with a good book and a cup of coffee!!! Make yourself busy and then you will meet loads of people and you are keeping yourself busy.... So stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out there the world has so much to offer you!!! But you have to make the first move and then everything will fall into place nicely... xxx

Answer 7

If you are thinking about suicide a lot, that is not normal, it is not a phase, it is not something you can just cheer up about or think how it will hurt others and then forget about it. If you're thinking about it pretty often, you have depression and need to see a doctor for that. Urgently. Tell a family member so they can help you. Calling a crisis line (like samaratins) can really get you through a bad spot, and I recommend it. People who work on a crisis line are really nice, they do that job because they care. Sometimes when a person is depressed, they THINK they have no friends, but they really do. (When I'm depressed, I usually think everyone hates me, even though lots of people love me). Could that be your situtation? Are there friends you have that you aren't calling up because you don't think they really like you? Depression warps the way you think, and then you have trouble enjoying the friends you have, or making any new ones. I hope you will call up samaratins and talk to a doctor about depression.

Answer 8

Let me add my voice to those offering support. You're not alone. You just need a hand getting yourself sorted. Start with a support line like the Samaritans (there are several, so try a few -- there are literally thousands of people in the UK who want to keep you here, will you consider that perhaps we're right :-).

Offer to help a soup kitchen. If you're shy, there's still plenty of quieter jobs to help out with -- and you'll be in a supportive environment, with opportunities to reach out more as you feel up to it.

Also look for an organization that helps hook people up with volunteering opportunities and go in to talk with them about what you might like to do. The people who work there tend to be very kind and friendly, so if nothing else it's a wee bit of positive contact.

As you get feeling better, do take up some volunteering and make it a part of your life -- it makes such a huge difference. My schedule is heavily demanding just now, but I continue to volunteer with people with learning difficulties because that community is so warm and real. I owe them so much.

And write to all of the people here who've asked you to, including me, when you need an ear. Just make sure that you've confirmed your e-mail addy with the Y!A mailer so we can write back.

Hang in there. We'll get you through this.

Answer 9

My mom gave me the best advice - I think it applies to you as well. If you want a friend, be a friend.

Go out and find someone who needs YOUR help. Get busy. Do exactly what you don't feel like doing - and that's moving your body. Take a long, brisk walk - you will be amazed at how much this helps.

While you're doing all of the above, also call the nearest psychiatrist - you may need some help getting through this and these physicians can work what feels like a miracle in our lives.

Mostly, though go to the nearest church, hospital, etc. and find someone that you can help. Believe me it will do more for you than you are doing for them.

Answer 10

No you're not, else you would have topped yourself by now. However, it does sound like you have some problems.

I had a friend, a few years back, who did take their own life - it was awful for those of us who knew him. Shoved a 12-bore in his mouth.

You need to find things to do, get out and meet people. Don't be afraid to initiate a conversation with someone - you never know, could end up being your best mate for life.

Go to the pub, get down the gym, ineract with people, but above all, keep your mind occupied.


Best of luck mate.

Answer 11

Talk to a counselor at school or see if a teacher will help you- but also stop and think- how dieing will affect your parents, grandparents etc... Your not alone in this world-none of us are- go to some arcades and try to meet new people or some clubs such as Eagle Scouts or something like that! Good Luck and God be with you!