An older woman who is a new employee at my work place keeps coming on to me, initiate conversation, checking on me, trying to befriend me in every possible way. Initially I was friendly with her, but then I soon realized she's not normal in the head. It seems she constantly need someone to talk to but she can't seem to find anyone at work to be friend with except me. I am really sick and tired of her coming on behavior, but have to be very polite to her when refusing to chit chat with her. She is persistent and my patience has ran out. I don't want to complain about her to a supervisor. How to get her off me??? PLEASE HELP ME GET RID OF THIS CRAZY NUT!
2007-01-10 15:49:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thank you for all your answers. I highly valued your smart and practical opinions.
2007-01-10 16:45:17 · update #1
Simply excuse yourself by saying, "I am sorry, but I have got so much to do today that if I don't get to it I'll never get done."
2007-01-10 15:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by castle h 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The next time she tries to check up on you, or offer her unwanted assistance maybe you can politely tell her "you know what? I am really busy, but how about if I need any help I will let you know. " This will put the control back into your court and she should get the hint. If this doesn't work you may have to be a little more abrupt the next time and just tell her that all the idle chit chat is becoming too distracting to your work and she is going to have to respect your time for work by leaving you alone. After that -- Supervisor. Good luck!!
2007-01-11 00:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by slickchick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to just be honest with her and tell her that she is making you feel uncomfortable with her persistent need to engage in constant conversation, and you are very busy.
There is a saying that fits your situation. It goes like this.."Be friendly , but not friends", (especially in a workplace).
Don't be afraid to take the matter up with your suprivisor, if it continues. Nowadays sexual harrassment is so previlent, that you can't afford to get caught up in a web you didn't create, and could cost you your job to try and untangle.
Best of luck to you.
2007-01-11 00:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The other suggestions about "being busy" were what I was going to say, and if you need more ammo, just say "I'm sorry, but the boss has been on my case about all the chatting that we do."
Something like that.
If it doesn't stop, then I think you really need to bring it up to her supervisor, or at least say, "I think Jane has quite a bit of spare time on her hands and could use some more work to keep busy, as she is making it difficult for me to make my deadlines."
2007-01-11 00:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just give her massive verbal and non verbal signals that you don't want to talk, still without being rude. When she comes up, turn around, don't smile, fold your arms. If she asks "how are you?'" then you can say "well im swamped with work at the moment, so id better get on it- ill talk to you later" then turn back around and start working, if shes still there just keep going.
If no "how are you," after 2 mins on convo, interrupt her in a slightly condescending voice and say "that's great, but ive really got to get back to work. We'll talk later." Just keep doing it till she gets the hint!
2007-01-11 00:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put head phones over your ears, or place a DO NOT DISTURB sign on your cube/office door. You can also just simply state to her "Hey Suzy..or whatever her name is....I really appreciate you coming over all the time, but I sometimes have a problem staying on task at work and am in jeapordy of falling behind. I REALLY can't afford to lose my job and I need to make sure I'm staying on task ALL the time." or you could tell her that your boss noticed you talking all the time and asked you to stop it...That way....she won't take it personally.
2007-01-11 00:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by crazyonthebus 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What you could do when she comes over, pretend to be very busy. You could acknowledge her and then say, " Sally, I hate to cut you off, but I have a million things to do and then pretend to get busy." Just do this every time she comes over.
2007-01-11 03:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by tnbadbunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have work to do and can't talk to her. OR each time she comes over, gush about your imaginary or real girlfriend and show her photos of her to put her off hopefully.
2007-01-11 01:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself fortunate that somone's paying attention to ya. Wish I had that.
2007-01-10 23:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back Off Porky!
2007-01-10 23:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by Eva 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋