We want someone we r close to to marry us. Both my sister and his sister are legally qualified. I say mine, he says his. I don't like his, he don't like mine. Neither one is the dress wearing "type",so we don't have bridesmaid duties to give them. How should we decide? Draw straws?
2007-01-10 15:44:49 · 13 answers · asked by Debbie S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Have them both do it...they can split the ceremony between the 2 of them, and then jointly tell your fiance "you may now kiss the bride" and announce you as a couple to the congregation. I think it would be a WONDERFUL way to show how your 2 families are blending (and should even be a point brought up during the ceremony). Best of luck to you.
2007-01-10 17:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welches is absolutely right. You can't choose one of them to perform the ceremony, since it's very clear that at least one of you and probably one sister will be unhappy. There are plenty of good wedding officiants available in the US. You can find one on theknot.com, link below. I have been to weddings where a friend or relative performed the ceremony and it doesn't work. The ceremony tends to be a bit awkward unless the person does it for a living. Also they can suck it up, be bridesmaids, and wear dresses for their sibling's wedding.
2007-01-11 01:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get them all together and ask them. Someone may not want to do it. If 2 do then see if they can split the deal like 1 says first half and 2nd does the 2nd part. You said that they r not the dress wearing type so maybe they may or maynot want to be in the wedding party. Your best bet is to ask but if it was up to me i say just get an outside official to wed you and ask them to be in the party. IT is your day and they should be happy just be be with you to witness and celebrate it.
Good luck and congrats1
2007-01-11 00:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by whijess03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that split down the middle then i'd do something like drawing straws. The other options is to sit down (all four of you) and talk it out. The later option my result in a lot more drama, so be careful. Good luck
2007-01-10 23:54:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would pick a neutral party to preform the ceremony, then ask the two siblings to be bridesmaids- and let them wear formal pantsuits for the wedding.
If you pick one sibling to preform the ceremony, one of you will end up unhappy with the arrangement, and you will have one unhappy sister (his or yours) to deal with. And if you allowed them both to preform the ceremony jointly, then you may have a hard time getting things coordinated.
2007-01-10 23:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use them both . Often in bilingual cerimonies they have more than one officiant. So two officiants is not something completely new. Leave the task separating up to them for who will do what and they will know what they need to sign.
2007-01-10 23:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because they aren't your bridesmaids one of them can still have the duty of throwing you a bridal sower or a rehearsal dinner....give both of them a task and find someone else to marry you.....
2007-01-10 23:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by ...Jess....:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could they both do it? If they're creative enough, they could share the duties. I guess you'd have to have just one of them sign the marriage license.
Congratulations
2007-01-11 09:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only have one...so umm yeah that's my only option...lol
And the bride's family has to pay for the wedding! So the bride should pick! :-D
Good luck with the situation! ;-)
2007-01-10 23:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any way for them to split the duties?? for example one of them could give you your vows to repeat, the other his vows, they could take turns on the other parts, and announce you man and wife in unison.
2007-01-11 00:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by kiki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋