I'm not sure what to do?

Question

I have been with him for 4 yrs. 1 yr ago he took a job about 2 hours away from where we lived. I own my home and have a good paying job. This move was only supposed to last 3 months, then 6 months, then a year. So then he tells me thathe was offered a management postion 3 hours away but if it was going to cause a problem then he wouldn't take it. I said although I supported him I felt it would be hard and cause a problem. He still took it. Due to our lifestyle this person's family doesn't accept me. So when he took the job it's only 45 minutes from his Sister who doesn't know we're together. So for the last 4 mnths I've only had 2 visits. I get a phone call his way to work & a phone call on his way home. O.k. so now he was able to get an apt. cuase it's hard to get one where the job is at. Now it's like "Are you ready?" I said "for what" he said "to come over here?"
I am terrified. The seperation caused me to go into a horrible depression and I am afraid of going back into it.

So now it's like o.k. you only came four times but your ready for me to take the train over there every other weekend. What about all this time I've been alone? I feel like I was abandoned and I don't know that the fear of it happening again has ever left. I know it has dissipated but it's still there.

Answer 1

why would you let all this time go by and keep all your true fellings inside until now.unless you told him how you are feeling now in the past how would he know that what he did or is doing now is wrong.i think he does love you,if he didnt he would not have asked you to come on now.but i dont know the guy only you do so you gotta think about your feelings and you and his future together and do you want to be apart of it.but mainly you need to have a heart to heart with him and put everything on the table and get it all out what you are going through and what he put you through,and you may find out it isnt as bad as it may seem.