My mom past away when i was 5..this was the hardest moment of my life and my grandmother was my guardian for 6 years until she passed away with cancer...it hurts me so much to know that they won't be there at the wedding with me i know they will be there in spirit but....is there any way that i can honor them at my wedding?
2007-01-10 15:22:38 · 21 answers · asked by krmzjt21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am so sorry you are so sad, especially now, I know you wish they were there with you, but like you said they will be there in spirit. I have been to weddings before where the minister says something for you (tell him your story and what you want), let him do it for you, so you won't get too emotional! Also, do you have a pair of earrings, or a hankerchief or scarf from your mom and grandma?You can always carry these with you, or have your florist weave the hanky or scarf into your bouquet, that is what I did with my grandmothers hankerchief. You can also save two seats in the front row/pew of the church with their pictures and a single rose in their seats. Whatever you do, remember one thing, I am totally sure that both your mother and your grandmother would want you to have a very special day, and NOT be sad on their behalf. Know that they will be there in spirit with you, if you believe that, it will make it easier, and more meaningful to you. Good luck with your special day!
2007-01-11 01:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother passed away when I was 12, and both of my grandfathers had passed away before I was five. So I wanted to Honor them at my wedding too. The way I did this was to set up a memorial table at the reception. On it I put pictures of all the people that my husband and I wanted to remember on this special occasion. We framed the pictures nicely, added place cards with their names on it, and had a rose by each picture in the wedding colors.
Another way would be to have someone read or write a poem for the ceremony or reception and light candles in her memory.
2007-01-10 23:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by hol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find or write a nice poem that you could read aloud before you take your vows. Have a picture of both of them sitting where your guest can view them. This will be a hard day for you. and hard for you to read a poem but it is a good way to honor the loved ones that can not be with you. Also at your table have a place for your Mother and Grand mother and place a candle there to represent them. A friend of mine did this at her wedding for her Father it was very touching and special moment.
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS
2007-01-11 00:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Diane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For my daughters' weddings we had candles lit for their two grandfathers, and an aunt. It was noted in the program but nothing was done during the service. I felt injecting something into the service was hedging too close to making a joyous wedding ceremony into a memorial service.
The program listed the memorial candles with "Forever in our hearts, forever a part of our lives"
I've seen flowers on the alter, flowers on an empty seat, and special flowers in the bride's bouquet. The most important thing to remember is to not go overboard with the memorial.
Remember this is a day of celebration. Your mom and grandmother would want that for you.
2007-01-10 23:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All my grandparents were dead by the time I was 16. My husband has only one living grandparent who was too ill to travel for the wedding. Here's what we did:
We found pictures of our grandparents with us and without us when we were kids. I have a favorite that has both sets of grandparents and my brother and me on it, but we had a bunch of them...and we had a guy at church make the pictures into a video show. We also included written dedications within the video show to our grandparents. We also had two candles that were meant to be the Unity Candle that you put your wedding program in that had dedications to our grandparents on them. I have those on display in my house. And I did use the line "I know you are with us in spirit."
2007-01-11 00:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both my parents and my fiance's dad is gone, we very recently lost his grandfather. We plan to have pics of them on a table to honor them. Perhaps a lit candle for each lost family member would be a nice touch as well.
I was thinking just yesterday, that I might bring a family photo album, but I don't know if that's a good idea.
Congratulations.
2007-01-11 09:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just being happy. Happy about your wedding day; Happy about your husband; Happy about all the good things that are happening around you; And never forgetting about your Mother, and your Grandmother. I hope you have a wonderful wedding.
2007-01-10 23:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most appropriate time to do this is when you and your husband are speaking, following the toasts at the wedding. I had lost my dad two years before my wedding, and that is the point where I spoke about him and my mom.
2007-01-11 06:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about lighting a candle for each of them at the head table or something like that? To represent their presence in spirit if not in body?
2007-01-10 23:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by since you asked 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put a table out with their pictures on it. I also would leave two reserved signs in the seats that you normally would seat the mother of the bride. If you feel strong enough I would have my bouquet put into four sections and leave one of the four sections on each seats and continue (one for your mom one for your grandmother) Give one to your future mom and continue to the alter carrying your last one.
2007-01-10 23:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋