gal was interested in another guy after being with me for 1.5 mths cuz this was a guy she couldn't get before (he's a player which had a few diff gals before) and he suddenly told her he has interest. She said the thing which made her try to work things out with me was because I was the nicest bf to her and I treated her right. But I think she broke up with me cause she's intrigued with being with him. We had huge arguments for a whole week on a recent overseas trip together. She tried to blame me for being suspicious and controlling her...when in fact I was suspicious for the right reasons. we had a falling out after our return but then talked it out after a few days to be friends. Yet when I asked her if there's a chance she said not now and don't keep my hopes up for the future. I know it can be a spur of the moment thing when she said it and also because she has that guy on the sidelines now. She came back to me again (10 days latr + told me to give her three mths) Should I wait?
2007-01-10 15:11:28 · 28 answers · asked by Lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might really love her , yet you don't have to wait 3 months she should know who she wants and she chosed him. Move aside and find someone who deservers your love you'll see she'll regret leaving you. No NEED 2 WAIT!
2007-01-10 15:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kat's Lil LAdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT WAIT!!! She knows your a good catch, but the "player" has given her a chance, and deep down inside she knows it's not going to work (she's secretly hoping it will) BUT just in case her instincts are right, she still wants you to be there when she's been made a fool of and needs someone to run back to....you know, until the next player turns her head. In a way, she's kind-of a player herself, with you.....let it go. You sound like a great guy, if you weren't she wouldn't try to keep you for three months, she's afraid some other girl will find out what she knows, and take you....so let the other girls do their thing and go....trust me. I have been on both sides of this fence, If she thought you were the "one" NOBODY would turn her head......She'll play this game as long as you let her and until she finds someone who makes her heart "pitter patter", but he likes HER too. This one isn't it, he'll be sending her back soon enough. Good Luck.
2007-01-10 23:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any time you get the "let's just be friends" line, that is just what it means. Do NOT wait for something that may or may not happen. The right girl could walk by and you would miss her. Treat this as a learning experience and move on. Keep her as a friend, if you wish. But do not trust her with your heart unless you want it stomped on the next time "someone better" takes interest in her. She sounds like she has a lot of maturing to go through.
2007-01-10 23:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by royalruby72 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time..time and keeping yourself busy can help you to heal..to move on from this girl..
As far as why she said she needs she months to wait..I think that's rather clear. She has another guy, and in three months she'll know if it's working out with him or not..until then..she'll keep you on ice..
If she were sincere..why would she say three months? When you need to take a break..to think..to re-evaluate your feelings..generally you don't give a specific deadline..but three months..unless you were married and had been together a long time..three months is too long to think about whether you want to be with a guy.
Good grief..it's double the time you were together. Don't wait for her..if you're meant to be..she'll come back to you..and you can decide then.
good luck.
2007-01-10 23:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
This counts as playing games. She flat told you she knew was letting a good thing (that would be you) go. I've seen women play a guy like this because he has a good heart for years.
She'll come back when he dumps her. Don't let her run back and forth between the two of you like this.
Cut your losses, get the hurting over with and move on
2007-01-10 23:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, she will come running back because he will start to cheat on her as well. You said he had several females and she must think she will change his behavior. NOT! She did not deserve a nice person like yourself. She said that you was the nicest boyfriend but t she wants someone who will dog her out. Take your time because a nice one will come to you. You should not give her a day let alone 3 months. She can not have her cake and eat it too. Please move on with your life and do not wait for her. You deserve to be happy just like her. Move Forward.
2007-01-10 23:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by michellej 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must really love her or think that you can't do better. In any case if I was you, I would not like some one else leftovers. It seems to me that she may be going with that guy and having her free 90 days free trial just to get it out of her system. Then take him back to customer services and have him exchange for the better quality one which in this case would be you. I really think that you should employ your time in some one that would appreciate you from the beginning and don't have to go for test drives on other stick shifts lol.
2007-01-10 23:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jeenie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she doesn't really care that much for you. A girl like that will only drive you crazy. The only cure to forget a girl is time. The time it takes depends on how much you see her while you're trying to forget her. So, if she's always around, it will be really hard to forget. But, if you don't see her often it will still take a long time to forget if you are really attached to her. When i left my gf for cheating, it took me about 6 months to forget. For the first few months i thought about her every day. But eventually you do forget.
2007-01-10 23:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Schoolboy666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i think you should not..i used to be that way and...i know how she is thinking she only wants you to wait so she can have a little fun with the other guy n still know that if...and when he does get rid of her or if she gets tired of him she has a safe place to land....she is tryin to turn u into her safty net...i had a few of those..but i grew up wised up n stoped playin with ppls emotions like that..i think u should just move on..dont wait around so u can be the butt to all her jokes with her friends..do u really want that ..u should have someone who loves you for the person u r and doesnt make u wait till she is done with someone else...got me ...
2007-01-10 23:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Krystina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girls don't like when you have ANY suspicions. They want it COOL, CALM and COLLECTED...not only at first but throughout the WHOLE relationship, unless you both have kids or something, or she's ugly and has to settle for your abusive butt! She's giving it 3 months so she can test the waters and see if you change! So if you want her my suggestion is to give up on her, and GET MAD! Get jilted, but then come back with a new attitude. That you're gonna play things COOL, CALM, right? None of your relationships (NONE OF ANYONE'S) relationships will work, or be worth a good pooh, unless you learn to be sensative through and through. And that means suspicion must go. no matter what. If a chick wants to cheat, or leave, nothing you can do, just play the game back. That's it. End of story. Ciao, bye and good luck. ;-) peace MY BROTHER!
2007-01-10 23:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Spirit-X 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋