why do most parents always fight with the oldest kid???

Question

My mom always picks a fight with me and we ALMOST end up in a catfight...
what the Hell???

Answer 1

Because the oldest child is the practice child. The one they make all the mistakes on. Or it could be control issues. I was not the oldest and I fought like crazy with my dad because he is so controlling.

Answer 2

Hi Kristen,
It may just SEEM like mom (or dad) fights most with the oldest. As the mom of seven (I'm 44), I personally felt a bit more protective of my oldest, perhaps because he was my firstborn, so we did disagree on a lot more things (again, this could have been my protectiveness). One other thing I'll share with you, Kristen, is that I had no idea what I was doing when I became a mom. I planned my children, but no one can ever plan for what is to come with children. Your folks aren't perfect, and you didn't come with an instruction manual. And, your folks will never understand everything about you. And you, Kirsten, will never understand everything about your folks.
You may be tired of the arguing, but you still have to communicate with your parental units. They have to communicate with you, too. In other words, a whisper will get you much, much further than a shout.

Answer 3

Sometimes as parents we make the mistake of putting unrealistic expectations on the oldest child.Sometimes we think because they are older(even by only a year or 2) that you must know better.Sometimes we forget that you are still a child and need the same reassurances as your siblings.We don't mean to treat you diferently but sometimes we confuse your age with your maturity.This type of pressure is sure to overwelm you and you feel frustrated and next thing you know a big fight between parent and child.As parents we canonly prepare our children for life ,we cannot live their life.Hang in there your mother loves you or she wouldn't care what you said or did.

Answer 4

well in My case my parents pick fights with me but not my older brother. they are ALWAYS saying "why cant you be more like him" or " he does such and such this way, why cant you do it this way too?" or what ever they want to fight about. my "perfect" older brother never fights with mom an dad. of corse why should he, they treet HIM like a god and me like the scum of the earth. I know that they love him, but I dont know if they love me. I think that they think I was a misstake and they should have never had me. in some ways I wish that too, because my life has been hell.

Answer 5

Eh, my husband and that i disagree and bicker often times however it continually leads to amusing. one human beings truthfully finally ends up giggling at some stupid statement the different made and all is forgiven. i imagine it shows it our childrens that they could trust us now to not carry grudges. we are a relatives- no sense in growing enemies over a disagreement. i imagine dad and mom that curse one yet another, call one yet another names and scream decrease back n forth each and each and every of the time at one yet another can somewhat damage the way their childrens imagine relationships ought to paintings. and that i propose ALL relationships. it would want to impact their friendships, relationships with bosses/coworkers/time-honored public. What I do imagine is solid for little ones to be certain is at the same time as dad and mom capture themselves being ridiculous in an mission and own it, exhibit regret, kiss- snigger, make up and flow on. It shows the little ones that oldsters are human beings, too. they could bicker and disagree yet they're going to make up and their homestead is a secure position to be. dad and mom that threaten divorce in the front of the little ones and scream how a lot they despise one yet another, truthfully are exhibiting the little ones that their protection is one thread far flung from being snapped.

Answer 6

im the youngest and i get harrassed the most. so its not all parents and not most either it depends on tha family. and everykid seems to think its only then and their siblings get it better but thats not really true we cant really know because we arent them so we dont know. but i always end up in a fist fight with my mom...it blows but i deal with it...thats all one can do.

Answer 7

Well, if you're using that type of language with her, I can see why.

I am saying this out of all seriousness...is she just picking stuff out of the air, or is she disciplining you and you're not showing any respect?

I guess we need an example of what you mean.

Answer 8

Because they don't know how to treat a kid. Like my mom told me," You were the practice kid, I didn't know what to do."