If you're in a relationship that seems to be based more on lust than on love (although both are present), what steps could be taken to encourage the guy to commit to a more love-based relationship?
Details: I've been seeing a guy for a while (not "officially" but we haven't really been seeing other people) and we care a lot about each other, but a big part of our relationship is about physical aspects. What are some ways I can grow closer to my guy? We're very open with one another, but I want to build the casual parts of our bond and not just talk about the relationship itself all the time.
And I don't want the answer "tell him how you're feeling." He knows. I want actual ACTIONS that I can take.
Thanks!
2007-01-10 14:51:39 · 4 answers · asked by centralwimusic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's been over a year now... and it's not that there isn't love there... but I'm looking to develop the casual parts of it. We have a lot more than just lust, but I want to strengthen things like random phone calls, meeting up for a few minutes here and there, just that sort of stuff. Any thoughts?
2007-01-10 15:22:14 · update #1
start looking at the inside of the person and their quality and more inportantaly their goal in life.
2007-01-18 04:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by MR DESTINY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this but why would he want to make a commitment if he's already getting all of the perks of being in a relationship? The only action you could take would be a risk. This is where you find out how he really feels about you because it could go either way. You have to not be available for him: not answer his calls, just disappear for a week. After he's fearing losing you, tell him that you don't want to be with him without some kind of commitment. If he loves you he'll give you what you want. If he's not that into you, he'll move on.
2007-01-10 23:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is the dinner. Lust is the dessert. If you have dessert first, you ruin the whole meal. If you're looking for love, you're probably not going to find it with someone who likes to have sex with you more than he likes you. Leave him and find someone who will love you first.
2007-01-10 22:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by therightanswer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TIME
love stands the test of time.
lust... lasts a minute tops
2007-01-10 22:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kipper to the CUP! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋