11 Year Old Bedwetter?

Question

One of our sons is 11 years old and still wets the bed. Our six year old is also a bedwetter, but the problem is not with him. At 7:00 tonight I put a diaper on both of them and before we i sent them to bed I noticed that one of kids smelled kind of funny. I called both of them over and I told them i wanted to check their diapers. I check my 6 year old and his was dry, but when I checked our 11 year old his diaper was already wet. I asked him why he wet himself and he said because he didn't feel like going into the bathroom. I was pretty upset!

We got a new diaper on him before he went to bed. But what should I do about this? It is completely crazy!!!

Answer 1

Your son is being lazy. If the problem keeps going ask his doctor what you should do.

Answer 2

Ok first of all I am assuming that you use the night pants for the eleven year old. I am sure that the wetting the diaper was a way of grabing your attention, he may have issues about having to wear them at this age. If of course he has some sort of special needs issue, then I am not sure. My son is special needs and at seven years of age he still wear night pants day and night. Now as far as the bed wetting goes, boys have a tendancy to have a hormonial thing going on. when they hit puberty it goes away, that was the case with my husband. He was fourteen the last time he wetted the bed. Oh and for the person who said get them out of the diapers, my husband said that if he would have had night pants like they have today he would have been happy as a lark. He had no control at night and barely had control during the day and that would have been a simple solution. My best friends son loves his night pants because he does not have to get up and change his cloths and sheets. It is not the childs fault that they wet, and making them suffer through wet sheets and cloths is embarrassing, actually I wetted the bed till I was thirteen and I would have given anything to be able to stop, I am like my husband if there is an easy solution then that is great. I would tell the eleven year old now if you or not happy with these night pants then fine you don't have to use them, but please you need to go to the restroom.

Answer 3

I am now an adult, but I wet the bed until I was about 12 years old. It's a really terrible, embarrassing experience. First please don't yell at them, it feels awful and ends up making the problem worse. Second, take those diapers off! It is easy to be lazy with one of those on. It makes no sense, but I remember peeing in the bed once when I was awake (about 9 yrs old) in the middle of the night because I was too lazy to get up and very used to laying in pee. (Hey, I'm not proud of this, I'm just trying to help)

They say that traumatic experiences can cause this problem. Looking back, my life was not traumatic-- but it was stressful. I have always tried to be someone that works hard and I think the pressure I had put on myself led to stress. Talk to your kids about what they do well, their achievements and then about how wetting the bed doesn't fit in the picture.

Also, don't let them drink anything before bed and avoid letting them hear you talking about the problem with family, doctors, etc. It can be very embarrassing and hurtful.

Answer 4

Why do you put a diaper on your 11 year old?

Stop doing that. Make him wash his own underwear.

Stand up and be a mom, make your kids sit on the toilet!

Terrie, if you read the question closely, you would have noticed that the 11 year old was peeing in a diaper in the day time, not asleep in the middle of the night, and to answer this type of dilemma, I say-GIT THE CHILD TO THE TOILET! He is way too old to be wetting himself just because he has on night protection. He was not even in bed!

If there were a problem and the child needed to wear protective covering in the day time, then I would have answered differently, but he is only wetting himself when he wears protection, whether or not he is awake or asleep. This is a serious problem, and My answer is still the same- Make him use the toilet, when he is awake, before he goes to bed. To wet ones self just because you can is not acceptable behavior.

Answer 5

Your children are not too old for pullups if they aren't dry at night. However, your 11 year old doesn't need you to put them on him. That's part of his personal bedtime routine and should occur right before he goes to sleep. He might be quite angry at you for being infantalized like this and this coudl play into his using his pullup as a substitute for a trip to the bathroom.

The person who said that is not of eastern european descent, apparently, where this shows up genetically a lot.

In many families, there are kids who are dry at night as soon as they as dry during the day and other kids in the same family who cannot stay dry at night after becoming dry during the day. Pullups are merciful to those children, their parents, and the washing machine. This is typically resolved when the child is around 12, because of issues related to bladder size and depth of sleep.

Your 11 year old needs to be told that those things are expensive and that he simply may not use them to be while he's awake. And he needs to be allowed to put them on himself just before bed.

Answer 6

Im sorry but i have to be blunt about this, your kids are being lazy and you are pandering to this in allowing them to wear diapers to bed for convenience sake, first thing you need to do is to make sure they have nothing to drink after 7pm, before bed make them go to the bathroom whether they need to or not, then through the night, wake them and make them go to the bathroom, this may seem like hard work, but its the only way you will get them into a new routine and out of the old one they have been allowed to slip in to. Yes its inconvenient, yes it means you getting up through the night with them but after a week or two they should be in a new routine, and may even sleep the whole night through without needing the bathroom, you and your partner are the only people who can change this situation, so its up to you, but the first thing you need to do is GET RID OF THE DIAPERS.

Answer 7

I halfway hope you are joking with these questions. Either that or you really need some help both for your boys and yourself. Kids don't need their parents to bath or cloth themselves I'd say past eight years at the least!

If he wets the bed make him clean it up in the middle of the night. Talk to a doctor about this and see what can be done.

I really think if you'd let your boys grow up these problems may not be an issue much longer.

Answer 8

I am going to be upfront with you,neither child should be wearing a diaper to bed or anytime of the day inless they have serious bladder problems and have seen a dr for this! Both are to old to wear a diaper .Take them off and remind them to go to the bathroom.I am a mom of 3

Answer 9

First off your son might not be "lazy" there is a medical condition where people can not feel the need to urinate until either its to late or they never feel it. Sometimes childrens bodies grow faster then their bladders do. If you are being serious take him to see a speicalist you'd be surprised what you can learn.

Answer 10

You need to talk to his doctor about it. It can be a reaction to food, I was told by my doctor. Also it sounds like a behavioral issue, especially since he is wetting before he is even asleep. You might want to take him to a behavioral specialist.