My parents are really coming down hard on me lately. They think that because i can't keep my room clean (it's been that way since i was born!) but i'm trying, i made the musical at school, and have a job that i don't want to be part of the family. What do i do?!?!?! they won't let me go on a church retreat that is very important to me, i need advice, and quick!
2007-01-10 14:41:47 · 13 answers · asked by Panda Pooh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to pick a time and basically, ground yourself to your room until it's clean. I know it's hard, but I'm an adult and I still have to do that on occasion. (Not my room, but housework). What I mean is...pick a time that you can completely devote to making that room clean. Start in one corner and clean it well. Then step back into the mess, and clean that area. Just turn on the radio, don't talk on the phone...no computer etc... and clean until it's done.
The best way to accomplish a task you despise, is to just do it! While you're doing it, grumble in your head all you want, but keep your hands moving. By the time you're finished complaining to yourself, the job is over.
2007-01-10 14:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Clean your room if you want them to see you're making an effort. Then, talk to them. Let them know the retreat is important AND that you really value them as your parents (if that's true). Be ready for whatever the answer is that you get. If it's no, then work on having a good time WITH them and not on spending the weekend pouting. Show affection to them (hugs, telling them you love them, keeping the room cleaner,etc.) if you really do care. It may take a little time, but it'll be worth it - even if you miss the retreat!!
2007-01-10 22:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to choose your battles with them wisely. Ask them why shouldn't you go on the church retreat and if they tell you it's because of your room then do the chores as completely and quickly as you can for reasons other than the retreat and keep it up and bring up the retreat when it happens a week before and you might get to go on that retreat after all.
2007-01-10 23:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by padiwan2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The First thing u have to sit down face to face talk with ur parent what u want.Try to let them know church is a very good place to learn something.Let them know u like music.Everyone have personally like.try to be ur best to keep ur room clean more.
2007-01-10 22:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by Yvess lim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they seem a little obsessive - but i say spend an afternoon making your room pristine. pick up all the stuff on the ground, clean fingerprints, wash your mirror, make your bed, open up those shades. keep it that way for a few days and see how they react. don't say a word to them - let THEM find out. they'll know you're willing to compromise - you go on the retreat but you have to keep your room neater.
2007-01-10 22:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by skigrrl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents might just feel like they're losing there little girl, your growing up and that's hard for some parents to take, to see that you have a job and your doing things on your own. just talk to your parents and let them know that they are still a huge part in your life and that being independent is a good thing.
2007-01-10 22:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what i do is find a break in my schedule which is friday after school of everyweek and i do my laundry and clean my room which only takes at most 45 minutes cleaning the room and whole thing about2-3 hours cause my dryer is slow on drying clothes, you do it everyweek then you only have a few hours of work instead of several hours of cleaning
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2007-01-10 22:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Eiffel Tower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they r trying to get you organised that's all. if you don't learn now u will never learn.its not a big deal just take out 15 min everyday to clean up.u r making them proud at school why give them a chance to complain at home.
2007-01-10 22:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel Ur not satisfy with Ur job ,So the frustration is the main culprit,which comes across the relation between parents &
daughter.So i advise u keep urself COOL.work on it,problem
will be solved automaticaly.
thank u.
2007-01-10 23:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by all4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋