I am a single mother of a 2 year old, and I am about to move out of state away from her father. I am pregnant with our second child, about 30 weeks, I am having second thoughts on keeping the baby or giving it up for adoption. I don't get support from him now and am wondering if I can handle it and also if she is going to feel neglected. I don't feel connected to this child at all, what should I do, I need some advice, I get depressed at the thought of another baby...
2007-01-10 14:35:51 · 9 answers · asked by onehotmomma929 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i was a single mother of my son from the moment i found out i was pregnant with him and he is now 21 months old and honestly he is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me and i wouldnt change a thing... i am currently involved with someone to whom i am 31 weeks pregnant with his baby... we slept together the first week we met and started dating not too long after that,,,, i told him i need to know if he is going to be there forever cuz im not sure i can handle two kids on my own,.,, i live in canada and on social assistance ( but shhhh they dont know about my boyfriend hehe) and i have a two bedroom apt for 705 incl and after rents paid i have about 300 left over plus about a grand comes in every two weeks from my boyfriends pay.... so id say yes... keep the baby... find your resources and you can do it girl !!!!!! i mean come on if me of all people can do it so can you!!!! good luck.... PLEASE email me.... wild_tigereyez@hotmail.com.... we seem to have alot in common and i would love to know how this goes
2007-01-10 14:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey, I am kinda in the same situation
I have a 7 year old with no child support and am expecting a second one with no chid support. My family is not close and I am on my own. It is up to you what you do, but don't let hormones make your decision.. it is scary.. i am excited for my second one, but I have been a single mom for 7 years.. so I have done the single mom thing for awhile. I didn't bond as I would have liked with my first one cause I was scared.. but with this one I am bonding more as I am less scared. It is up to you. There is no wrong decision... but if you do decide to do it.. I know you can. If I can do it anyone can (I say that because I started out really shaky, long story)
2007-01-10 23:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of good families out there wanting a child. If you continue to feel the way you do please put it up for adoption for the babie's sake. There are open adoptions if you want to know who the parents are,
My daughter has been trying to get pregnant for nine years and no longer has hope for this to happen. Number one thing to do is to think about both of your children, and do right by them.
2007-01-10 22:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you are going to neglect it then you should give it to someone who will take care of it. I was a little afraid when i was pregnant with my second child, but its not as hard as i thought it would be. it's really fun having two. I am married but my husband is in the military and away from home ALOT.
2007-01-10 22:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your two year old doesn't know you're pregnant and so wouldn't realize the baby was given up, it sounds like a very good idea. Your two year old knowing might worry that you'd give her away, although if she knew, maybe you could tell her you were having the baby for the new couple.
2007-01-10 23:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would reccomend is that you decide after having the baby. you might not feel connected now, but what about when you see it for the first time?
its up to you, trust your own instincts though. if you dont want the baby, don't keep it. there are thousands of infertile couples out there dying for the chance to hold a child 'of their own', even if it's adopted.
2007-01-10 22:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by tanja_berengue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think you can do it then I guess adoption is the only answer! She's not going to feel neglected...but PLEASE if you can't provide for the baby emotionally or finacally don't have a second thought about it...adopt...children deserve the best, dont punnish them...the kid didn't choose you!
Next time if you don't want the responsibility of a kid don't have sex!
2007-01-10 22:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by softball_whitney_04 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
TALK TO A LAWYER AND SEE ABOUT AN OPEN ADOPTION, SOUNDS THE BEST FOR ALL. IT'S HARD BEING A SINGLE PARENT. THERE ARE LOTS OF FOLKS OUT THERE WHO WOULD LOVE TO HAVE YOUR CHILD.
2007-01-10 22:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE CONTACT ME.....I CAN HELP YOU AND YOUR BABY AND THE ONE YOU HAVE NOW!!!!
faleshia@divinehomesinc.net
Even if you want to just talk....email me and I will give you my number ... I have been there!
2007-01-10 22:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋