Has anyone else ever felt this way? I mean, I just don't know. I am married and my husband could go either way on it. It's not like I hate kids or anything it's just that I don't have that yearning to have a baby like every other woman I know. I just don't know what to do. I like my life the way it is now. But I'm 36 and I need to make this decision soon. And I don't want to be 50 and regret my decision not to have a baby. Time is running out and I've been thinking about this for over a year now but I still don't have the answer. I thought I might receive some insight here. Thanks for your help!
2007-01-10 14:24:46 · 11 answers · asked by mojo24 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I don't think there are many people that know for sure. They just do it because they know at some time they want to have kids. But at the same time there is nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids. There is no law or belief that says when you get married you have to have kids. If you and your husband are happy and fulfilled in your life, why change that? When you have children, you give up your life and offer it to a little human being, while giving up time with your husband. This is a very personal action between you and your husband. You guys are the ones who will be forever responsible for this choice, no one else.
2007-01-10 14:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by doris_38133 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you been thinking about it......your heart is yearning for you to make a decision.....you have doubts that could go either way......follow your heart.
We all have doubts whether we should have children, what kind of parents we will make and will our children hate us or will we even know what to do when we do have them.
Then while pregnant we will have dreams of everything that can go wrong or everything that will be perfect.
Having a child is priceless, yes your life will change and you will make some beautiful memories that you will be able to share for years to come.
Will you be able to keep that white couch....was it really that important....it is replaceable....and material...however...looking into a child's eyes when they look up at you and know that you took part in making this miracle (priceless)and then they say something like....Mommy I love you or looky at what I made for you....with big hearts and smiles all over it....well its better then any pay check or bonus that you could ever receive.
I too was one that never wanted children...yes my life did change.
I packed for one more, nights got a little longer and days shorter....however the sun shined more and yes....there are storms with bumpy weather....however the rainbows seem to show more often then them.
Whatever decision you make you already sound like a good parents....you have the key ingredients..... a Caring husband and Communication.
Best wishes
2007-01-10 14:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would highly recommend that you do have a baby. It's one of the greatest things that us as women can do. The experience is wonderful and beautiful every step of the way. And maybe you don't know if you want one now, but if you had one you would never want it taken away. I am only 21 I had my first baby at nineteen and I have never looked back. I liked my life the way it was then too. But my life has so much more meaning now. And I will continue to live long after my body has died. Just some food for thought. Good luck whatever you decide will be for the best!
2007-01-10 14:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you're not 100% sure, don't. You might have serious issues, and depression afterwards and that would be bad for you and baby. If you are comfortable with your life, and your hubby is comfortable with life.. you don't have to have a child just to have a child. Some couples have no children, they live their life out happy and content. And you could always adopt later in life or be a foster parent..or something. Don't feel pressured because of your age to just do it.
2007-01-10 16:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are 36 i would say if there is any part of you that wants a baby you shoud have one now. It's the best thing in the world. I love my kids so much and am considering a 3rd baby.
2007-01-10 14:38:52 · answer #5 · answered by honeybear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with BUBBLES. If you are not totally sure that you want to have a child then don't. You will resent that child down the road, and they didn't ask to be hear. Some people dream of having kids, when they are young and some don't want to have kids. You will make the right decision.Good luck. And if you have friends with kids, or nieces and nephews, spoil them and love them till you make up your mind. God Bless.
2007-01-10 14:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by jaysboobie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you not 100 percent sure about having a baby then you shouldn't because that might lead you to neglect the baby and maybe even regret it later on. I think that you and your husband should really sit down and talk about it and see what you both want.
2007-01-10 14:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by BUBBles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HUnny if you have to ask your not ready!!! And dont worry you dont have to have kids just cause its then thing to do or cause time is running out. If you give it another year or 2 to think about it. Then that will be okay!
2007-01-10 14:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lil lady 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you actually have to sit down and think about it like this, probably not.
2007-01-10 14:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't sure, don't have one. Even if you decide after menopause, there is always adoption.
2007-01-10 14:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Missing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋