My son will be 3 next month. I am having the most horrible time trying to get him to go to the potty.?

Question

I can get him to urinate but he won't have a bowel movement in the potty. What am I doing wrong?

Answer 1

Boys can be notoriously slow in potty training.

You can lead a horse to water... but cant make them drink.

You may not be doing anything wrong. If you think of all of the things that go into being able to have a BM in the potty... its a very complex process. From knowing you have to go before it is too late, to having the language skills to tell someone else, to being able to negotiate your clothing and get on and off the potty. There is alot to it... and for boys who do some standing up... and some sitting down... GOSH its complicated.

The best thing you can do is continue to offer the option of the potty... and consistently encourage the potty before leaving home etc.... and just let it be. Pressure, scolding, bribing.... just makes its more frustrating for both parent and child.

A day will come when it all "clicks" for him and he suddenly does everything by himself... and you will be wondering where your "little one" went.

Believe me... he wont goto college in diapers.

Answer 2

You aren't doing anything wrong. When he is ready, he will use the potty. Unfortunately, because of the age, kids start to rebel/push back when they aren't ready, so take it gently, and on his cue.

Have you used videos or books? "Once upon a potty" worked for us -- we had both, but my son liked the video more.

I'm not much on mm's and candy for reqard, although some people are.

My son was (still is) *really* into trains, so I would get pictures off of the internet and print them out. Then I would cut a picture into 4-6 pieces, like a puzzle. Each time he went to the bathroom, (sometimes # 1, always for number 2) I gave him the piece, and he would keep it and when he got all of the pieces he would put them together and we'd glue them on a piece of paper and put the picture in his room. That way he got his "reward" (a picture) -- but it wasn't about buying him something, or feeding him something. And I have some mementos of that time (he's 7 now).

He trained right before his 3rd birthday.

Answer 3

You aren't doing anything wrong. Many toddlers learn to urinate before they learn to have a bowel movement on the toilet. It's perfectly normal. Watch your toddler for signs that he is having a bowel movement and tell him that is what he is doing. Tell him exactly what signs you saw so that he can start to be aware of what he does when he has a bowel movement. Then encourage him to try to put it in the toilet next time. Don't feel discouraged if it takes a while for him to catch on. That's nomal too. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I tried so hard to get my 3 year old daughter potty trained. She fought me every step of the way. I finally backed off and let her be. For a few weeks we'd walk past the school and I'd hold her up to the window and she'd talk about how much she wanted to go to school with the big kids. And I'd point out the sign in the classroom "NO DIAPERS ALLOWED." One afternoon after her nap she walked out and said "No more diapers, Mommy." And that was that!

When your son is ready he will potty train.

Good luck!

Answer 5

If he is sneaking off somewhere to take his bowel than all you have to do is leave him alone on the toilet when you know his got to take a movement and he will learn that all he need to say is Pooh mommy and you will give him the alone time that he needs. If that not then it might be that fact that he think he will break the toilet if he does because that all he sees going down it urine so maybe if he see you take a bowel he will or maybe daddy. And last but not least you my not be waiting long enough time for him to finish everything he need to do.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

you aren't doing anything wrong. each kid is different, my twin sons' magic age was 3 1/2 and my three year old told us on his 3rd b-day he "needed" to start using the potty. Don't force it or get frustrated he'll be able to sense your uneasyness. We had "potty " parties when my sons used their potty for the first time (hats, noisemakers) the whole thing. it also helps if family members are aware of what he's trying to accomplish, so he can call everyone & make his announcement when it happens.

Answer 8

My daughter had her potty train when she was two, what i did was i brought her to kiddy place to chose her own potty, try to buy something he like, comfortable to sit on and convince him that its time you learn to potty trained, another method is by peer pressure, i had my friend daughter over and she had sucessfully been potty trained and show your child that how clever this 'jie jie' is that she can stop wearing diapers. He might not start at once but very soon he will tell you mommy i want to use the potty instead.

Answer 9

You aren't doing anything wrong, unless you are scolding him when he doesn't perform on the pot when you try to get him to. Just be consistent, don't pressure him- training the bowels sometimes comes much later than bladder training- you can hold it in longer. My daughter was bladder trained, but not ready to give up her power in bowel training. The sitter she was going to wanted her to go on the pot and was punishing her when she went in her pull-up. She began to hold it in and became constipated because of the stress involved in the whole ordeal. When I found out what the sitter was doing, I changed sitters and checked with my daughter's doctor. He suggested 1 tsp of citrucil in the am before breakfast and then having her "try" after breakfast. This cured her after about 2 days and she used the pot after that. With the pressure taken off her and the decision- making in her hands it all went smoothly. Just be patient and consistent. Good luck!

Answer 10

i had the same problem with my son. He finally was potty trained three months before his fourth birthday. I didn't push it with him because the more i did the more he would resist so the best advice i could give you would be wait until he's ready. It'll feel like forever but that's the best thing for him and you.