Okay, I dated this guy 2 YEARS AGO for a very short time. I liked him a lot but he was disrespectful and only wanted to have sex with me. I am in High School and he is the captain of the football team..to make long story short, he has had a girlfriend for about a year now but is still CONTROLLING my love life. He is threatening everyone he knows into not dating me. He tells them he'll "beat them up" if they ever talk to me or touch me. I am so sick of this. I don't know what to do. I mean we broke up and it's been 2 years AND he has a girlfriend!! AND he is a jerk who only liked me to "deflower me" and have sex with me. I don't he has ANY reason to get involved in my life. I don't even know WHY he does it, it's not like we were in a serious relationship or he was in love with me.!!I don't know what to do? Any ideas? I mean if I confront him he denies it! Please help. He is scaring every guy I am interested in away.
2007-01-10 14:16:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone who's bigger than him... (kidding but possible) Talk to his girlfriend. That should shut him up...
unless, you still like him and you like what he's doing cause its a sign that on some level he still likes you too... be honest to yourself first...
If thats not the case, from what you said, this guy is a jerk and he should get whats coming to him in no time... but if you cant wait,
again tell his girlfriend or just find someone who can beat him up in front of everyone so people wont be scared of him....Also, if the guys you're interested in dont stand up to him so they can be with you, they're not worth it...
2007-01-10 14:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by raiden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well . . . I don't know why he would do that except for being hateful. Cheer up. He can't do that forever. That's about the cruelest thing I've heard of in a while. I never heard of such a thing. Maybe you should date guys from other schools or something. Or a REALLY big guy who's nice and has lots of friends. And you never know, some dude might drop him for starting mess. You should spread the word about what kind of person he is among all of your friends. If you are friends with his girlfriend, see if she can make him cut that out. There really isn't much else I can think of, unless you get someone to beat him up. Good luck!
2007-01-10 22:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get the school or a parent involved. I just hate these kinds of as*holes. Take him down, and take him down hard. Besides getting the school involved or a parent involved, tell your friends that while he may have had sex with you, it really wasn't sex since he never could quite keep it up . . . what little he had. Stick with your story and make it convincing.
2007-01-10 22:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have a few things that could help. im being dead serious because i hate guys like that.
he is doing that because he knows you are a little scared of him and because he is captin people are afraid of him. he likes to feel big and powerful. but inisde he is no more than a mere child with a temper. here are a few ways to make him stop but they arent all good ideas regardless. but im serious.
1: you could make friends with a scary individual who would make him cower. such as a body builder or a psycho. and by psycho i mean someone like myself who would knife him for ******* with my friend. like if you are haning with this new friend and he messes with you or talks about you the friend will get in his face and be scary(or just claim to be willing to stab him or cause an "accadent") i know that isnt the best way to go about things but if you have a friend who is smaller than him but isnt all preppy and loks like they could be scary and is willing to say some mean **** to him he may leave you alone.
2: beat up his girlfriend (this idea is worse than one but its possible)
3: just ignore it and he wont do anything because he is all talk no show
hope things get better i hate assholes like him
2007-01-10 22:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go talk to him and tell he is an insecure bastard he is and to stay out of your life. Another trick is, because he is acting like a child, call his parents up and tell them what a ****** douche bag their son is. This may sound childish, but it would probably work. Or go to somebody at your school, because this is a form of harassment.
Or, you can always date a guy who will kick his ***. (joking, mostly)
Don't take this **** from him. Good luck.
2007-01-10 22:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by yourlordandsavoirjesushchrist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just trying to control you so he can have sex with you when ever he pleases. You have to confront him and tell him that you are no longer interested in him and to f off. Why not talk to his girlfriend. That should shut him up :)
2007-01-10 22:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by BUBBles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get the hell out of ur friggen life and leave you alone. He has serious issues. its beem 2 years since u guys dated, he should get over it. and yeah i know how u feel about having guys wanting to just have sex with you. or maybe he has real feelings for u and he just tell u.. good luck.
2007-01-10 22:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he can only do what you let him do. you have to get serious with him and tell him to stay out of your life and mean it! then if you meet a boy and he continues to harass you then file charges on him and let your parents know that he is trying to control your life. and if all fells then put a restraining order on him good luck
2007-01-10 22:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating guys outside of school. He has no right to do such a thing, and sounds like a huge a**! I can't help but wonder what his gf thinks about it? I wish you luck.
2007-01-10 22:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is seriously doing this and it is truly affecting you this much, then I recommend you ask a teacher or guidance counselor for assistance, especially if the threats are serious. They'll know what to do.
2007-01-10 22:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Final11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋