About 3 Month ago i split up with my boyfriend. I love him and i thought he loved me. I found out that he had another girlfriend. He picked me up and dropped me for about two months in total. All in all we were together for about 10 months. I dont know what to do. we ended on quite a bad note because i found out i was pregnant. I told him i didnt want it. Then i found out that it was an etopic pregnancy and we have only spoke once since i was in hospital. Every body keeps telling me i deserve better. my head is screaming get a grip girl but my heart wont let me.
Please sombody tell me how i can get him back , its killing me. I just cant get over him.
2007-01-10 14:07:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just take some deep breaths and think why you broke up with him in the first place.
Good Luck
2007-01-10 14:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I don't think you really want him back. You've just been through rather a lot. Maybe it's more like you wish he was there for you?
You also probably feel bad because you told him you didn't want the baby and now it's gone. There's absolutely no connection between those two events of course, but our minds tend to do odd things when we're freaked out and grieving. You are probably mourning the loss of your baby, (yes, it still counts as losing a child) and you may still be a little hormonal from the pregnancy.
You're not going to get what you need from this guy. Take a day to lay in your bed and cry and sleep and eat some comfort food. Going through it and getting it out will do you a lot better than forcing yourself to just deal with it.
Good luck and I hope it gets better for you.
2007-01-10 22:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl let him be and find someone who can love and respect u like u deserve. You have only spoken to him once and u was in the hospital he should've been calling u making sure u was ok, he had another girlfriend? that's enough right there to say forget him, i know how u feel but who's more important u or him? Dont allow yourself to go through the pain that u do for him. He's not worth the time or pain, there are other men out here who would love to have u so invest some time in finding Mr. Right or letting him find u. As time pass u will see that what u want aint always what's good for ya!
2007-01-10 22:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by SingleMommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been where you are and there is hope!
Talk to your doctor and get a prescription for Zoloft; it will calm you down and give you time to get use to being alone.
Taking ZOLOFT is nothing to be afraid of!
It is non-habit-forming and non-addictive and the sh*t works!
Believe me!
NOW...as far as your ex- is concerned, MOVE ON!
He's made it clear that he does not want you...so...next!
MOVE ON!
I know your hurt and you are feeling badly!
BUT...why would you want somebody who doesn't want you?
You are much better than that!
If you have to cry and moan and groan and stop bathing and pull out your hair to get someone to stay with you, then you DO NOT need him and you certainly shouldn't want him!
REMEMBER:
1) Why would you open the garbage can and go through the garbage AFTER you have pulled the can to the curb?
2) Why would you want to take a sh*t and then step back in it?
2007-01-10 22:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, if you really want to get a grip, then realize that what you are doing to yourself is not healthy. You are not an "item" or "possesion". You are one of gods creations. Trust me, as a man who's been there on the naughty side. A man who truely loves you and wants you will drop everything for you. He may not be the one for you. Do this. Listen to "When A Man Loves A Woman". an oldie. If it sounds like what he sings is opposite of what your guy is like then.................think hard about what you're beating yourself over. As you mature, you will be a healthier person. Do what's really right. You are a Woman!
2007-01-10 22:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by EddieRasco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH HELL NAH!! You DO deserve better!! He doesn't even love you, otherwise, why would he have another girlfriend? You have to move on, no matter what your heart says...he probaly moved on with that skank who started the problem. You don't let a man control you gurl, DON'T YOU EVER IN YOUR LIFE BE DEPENDANT ON A MAN!!It starts many probelms! DO YOU HEAR ME??FORGET THAT NO GOOD TWO-TIMER KNOWN AS YOUR EX!!!(no offense). FIND A NEW MAN AND MOVE ON...NOW!!!!!!!!
>=(
2007-01-10 22:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by calypsocaper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has another gf then he has moved on and thats what you need to try and do. I know its hard and it hurts but it does get better with time, hang out with your friends, go shopping, do things you enjoy as much as possible and take care of yourself! Go get manicures and pedicures and get a make over even! It will make you feel great and when he sees how happy and confident you are it will make him realise what hes lost. And never go back to him! He had another gf while he had you....he will do it again and is prob doin it to his gf now...
2007-01-10 22:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Ask yourself if you want a cheater in your life first of all. Otherwise, I know it's dificult but you have to move on. Don't be bitter. If anything be friends with him if makes feel better than comletely shutting him out. Bitterness will only defeat you not him.
2007-01-10 22:12:49 · answer #8 · answered by ilm03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't love you, even if u find a way to get him back, it isn't going to last girl.... all you are going to do is prolong the pain. Obvously he didn't have the same feelings towards you, or he wouldn't have had another gf to start with. I know how hard it is, trust me, but you have to keep reminding yourself of all the reasons not to get him back. you need to be happy, and not constantly worrying and paranoid that he has someone else behind your back.
2007-01-10 22:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by jaysen_07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember this once a cheater always a cheater. My sister went thro the same thing and she had the baby and went back to the guy but his cheating got so bad that he almost killed my sister infront of my nephew because she wouldn't move in with the girl he was dating...I don't know if that will happen to you but it might so be carefull.
2007-01-10 22:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by sher_sher_light 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don;t wnat him back. look at the situation, how your pregnant and he does not want a thing to do with it. you told him and it takes two to tango on this one but he hasn't spoken to you. you can definitely do better then him. that should have been a huge red flag for you when he hasn't spoken to you about anything, and how to help you cope through the pregnancy issue.
2007-01-10 22:12:33 · answer #11 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋