I've been dating this guy for 2 years and we have a 13 month old boy. I met my boyfriends family when i was 5 months pregnant and everything was cool we got along but when i had Matthias everything changed they started talking about me behind my back to my boyfriend and when i mentioned my family they would roll thier eyes and say mhm. They also complaine about my family seeing matthias more then they do but we go visit them every two weeks and my mom if i'm lucky once a month (my boyfriends parents live closer) so what should i do? I have been putting up with this for over a year now. My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married but i don't think i can marry him with his family not liking me or my family. sorry it's so long.
2007-01-10 14:02:53 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The question is, does your boyfriend feel the same as his family does? I am sure he doesn't. Talk to him about his family and find out exactly how he feels about it. Have him speak to his family about how they are treating you. Just remember, you are going to marry him not his family. My N laws are the same way with me and my family. I only tolerate those people on special occations now. When I do go around them I smile and put on a happy face for my kids only. If it wasn't for them then I would most likely tell them off. Just remember you don't see them that often. You and your boyfriend know the truth. Lots of luck to you.
2007-01-10 18:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by jd77aets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if it's love don't settle. Contrary to popular belief, when you marry someone - you marry his/her whole family. You just don't have to live with them all the time. Don't try to make your boyfriend choose or take care of the situation - all this will do is create bad feelings between the two of you. Do be honest and tell him how you feel about the situation and let him know that you can take care of anything yourself when the time comes. That it is no reflection on him and your relationship if you have to put some people in their place. At this point he will either - give you his blessing to take care of it yourself - say that he will take care of it - or express his objection to doing anything. If he picks the last one is the only time to worry, that means he considers his parents above you or the baby. Good Luck. Hope this helps.
2007-01-10 15:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by John J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend need to make Matthias your priority. Get married and make each other the priority after Matthias. Easier said than done, I know, but for your child's sake it's the right thing.
2007-01-10 14:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend where you stand on this. If he truly loves you. he will put them in their place. If he reacts any other way, forget marrying him. You would end up unhappy.
2007-01-10 14:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your fiance exactly what your hearing and feeling. you are marrying his family as well, he needs to help you straighten this problem out sooner rather than later, if he doesn't want to help, move home with your parents.
2007-01-11 03:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by christine z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your marrying him not his family........talk to him and see where he stands and if he stands behind you then decide what to do together
2007-01-10 14:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋