we had gotten married by hte justice of the piece at the town hall. we had 3 people ther(our 2 best friend's and my sister). after wards we went to a restaurant to celebrate and have some drinks and it was nice. we did it that way cause we didn't have alot of money at tthe time. We have been together for 10years but married for 66 in june. I wanted to know if we were to do the who church and reception thing if gifts and money were to be accepted. Now I am not sure how the rules go. I just want to have a real wedding now that we can afford it and for everyone to have a good time. what does everyone think?
2007-01-10 14:01:20 · 10 answers · asked by whijess03 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
now for the ones that called me selfish . No we are not. I am very upset with you. We did not recieve any gifts when we had gotten married and I was just wondering because I know of a person who has done this. I want the dress, church and a big party. WE are going on 6 years but are planning to do the renew closer to 10. I was just wondering .
2007-01-10 16:13:18 · update #1
we are not going to register for gifts or even put it in the invite. I just wanted to know if someone who was invited asked me about gifts what would be the proper way to go abou it.
2007-01-11 00:23:30 · update #2
Only if you feel like you lost out on something...otherwise, I feel you did have a wedding...small, simple and comfortable, but most of all, blessed. Thats the way my parents did it.
2007-01-10 14:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, you DID have a real wedding. It was small, intimate, and afforable, but it was no less real than a fruffy frilly big wedding. Please don't diminish the importance of the wedding you had.
If you do decide to renew your vows, I personally would choose a round year that you have been married, not that you've been together. On your 10th wedding anniversary, for example. Generally, gifts are not given for vow renewals, and registering for them would be very inappropriate. The gifts are supposed to help a newly married couple get started with their home/life, and so this wouldn't apply to you.
2007-01-10 14:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Selfish. I would laugh if someone who was already married for 6 years wanted me to go to their renewal and expect gifts. I agree with others here. Just have a big anniversary party.
2007-01-10 14:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, you have already had your wedding, regardless of what the circumstances were. There are no "do-overs", so you must be satisfied with the ceremony you had. Maybe on your 10th or 25th, you could have a vow renewal ceremony and have family and friends over to your home for dinner after.
2007-01-10 14:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People who are normally just renewing their vows do not ask or receive gifts. It's considered rude to some people.
2007-01-10 20:52:48 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it...everyone deserves a church wedding...find a nice church and restaurant and invite friends and family that have always been with u through thick and thin...supported you both and wished u well on your marriage...they make nice witnesses to a lasting bond between you and your spouse...
2007-01-10 17:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by willow marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a princess, and deserve to be treated (and feel) as such for at least one day of your life! your first wedding was as real as any $20,000 wedding, yet this has been important enough for you to mention here, so dont second guess yrself. as far as gifts go, your family and friends will do as they please, once again i have no doubt they will lavish you with...you and yr husband did/do so deserve it, youve both waited too long. go girl have no regrets!
2007-01-10 18:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just renew your vows, and throw one really big party!
2007-01-10 14:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should do it!!!!!! weddings are special occasions, and are meant to be celebrated with everyone you love and care about, a joyous occasion!! i love weddings...
2007-01-10 14:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by A Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no-why would you??or didn't they mean anything when you got married?if you want to renew them it usually means you're on shaky ground--that won't fix anything
2007-01-10 14:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋