our 2 1/2 year old will not go to sleep unless we give him juice. this was fine when he just had a little in his cup before bed. however, it has turned into me getting up 3-4 times with him during the night on top of getting up with our baby! i am exhausted. i know it is my fault because i gave in and gave him something to drink. i just need to know if anyone has been through this and what you did that finally worked, he screamed and cried from 7-8 tonight and was back up at 9 and he is still going at it. it is 9:40. like i said before, i know it is my fault, but i need some tips before we lose it! thanks!
2007-01-10 13:40:31 · 9 answers · asked by Tracie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i really appreciate everyone's answers. we have a 4 year old too, but things like this never bothered her. i guess maybe it is nice to know we are not the only people going through this. right now we are just taking turns putting him back into his bed. we had gotten him away from drinks at night, but then the baby came and we moved from ohio to ny. then when we got here he had a big boy bed and his own room. so i felt bad because there were so many changes going on. i just need to be firm(stick with it) with him and i am sure within a few night it will be peaceful. he is a great kid and i do not think it is a jealousy issue with his new sister. they each have "mommy time" with me during the day so i think it is just me giving in because i felt bad and now here i am exhausted and just ready for peace at nightime. anyway, i am babbling. thank you for all your answers. good night!
2007-01-10 14:35:42 · update #1
the best thing to do is let him scream it out. He will never stop if you give in. It will take awhile, so lots of patience is needed. Good Luck
2007-01-10 13:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem on that basis but a different type of thing. I let my son sleep in our bed once and then it happened everynight he'd scream and cry unless he came into bed and he kept it up every night because I kept allowing it to go on and gave in. I finally put my foot down and dragged him back to his own bed and he put up such a tantrum and i put him right back into that bed each and every time he got up and after 2 nights of this he does not get up anymore to come in. Long story here but the gist is stop the juice all together. The longer you give it to him he expects it and knows if he screams and gets up at night he will get it. Let him make a stink for a night or two or three(lol) but he will get it that the crying will not lead to more juice and he will stop getting up. I always figured I was the parent and my son would not control me. Good luck and get some rest!
2007-01-10 21:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a new baby there ? Your baby is crying and getting fed how many times a night ? Is there a possibility he is afraid that this new baby will take his place.
Many times people say how cute the baby is without thinking about his brother or sister who is listening to this close by, include him and acknowledge him as well . I think he is doing this for attention sake, not that he needs the juice.
Spend more time with him before he goes to bed and make sure he understands that you love him just as much as before the baby was born.
Praise him when he doesn't ask for juice, and tell him that he/she is getting big and you are proud of him. In other words catch him when he is doing what you want him to do, and praise him about that. This is called behavior modification, if you want to do more research about it.
2007-01-10 21:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love, let him cry. As mean as that sounds, you will be potty training soon and the juice will have to be gone by then. Just a little water. You want him to be over the juice thing before throwing something new at him like potty training. Plus it is not good for his teeth to have that sugar after brushing. He might be reacting to the new baby and just using the juice to get the extra attention from you. Good luck! Parenting is hard.
2007-01-10 22:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the day take him to the garbage ,and let him throw his cup away,tell him how proud you are,that he's such a big boy,and when night time comes,he will most definatly scream bloody murder,but that will only last a week or two,it seems heartless,but it works,and in a month he wont even remember having a cup at bed!!!
2007-01-10 21:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by carin1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was having the same probelm two months ago, but I had 2 be firm and stop letting him drank after 7 pm . I get up maybe once to check on him for bed-wetting but so far so good..oh a lot of praying helped too.lol God bless
2007-01-10 21:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by babegyrl202002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that it is not time for a drink, it is time for nite nites that he will get one in the morning and tell him he needs to go nite nite or back to sleep whichever you say to him. My son is still trying to pull this one over on me, at first he would scream and now when he comes into my room and says milk I tell him nite nite and make sure he goes to his bed and I give him a kiss and tell him I will get him milk before school(daycare) or wherever he is going that day to be cared for. It took a few weeks but slowly he is waking up less and less through the nite! Good luck and have patience with him mommy!
2007-01-10 21:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by jule9104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look to see if there are any sleep schools in your area. They help you get your kids into a sleep routine. Here is a link to one so you know what type of thing you are looking for
2007-01-10 21:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a later bedtime.he may not be tired enough for sleep yet. stop giving it to him. hes waking up because of your baby crying to and he knows you feed the baby so he wants to be given something too so he gets attention
2007-01-10 21:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋