If im 18 and my bf is 19 about to turn 20 is that too young to know he is the one I want to marry?? He tells me he wants to be with me forever and I feel the same way but people are telling me I am too young to know what I want. I dont agree. I really love him and I know he loves me but am I too young to feel this??? He is the only guy I have ever dated that has not screwed me over or broken my heart. Plzz help. Thanks.
2007-01-10 13:31:29 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel: I'm 20 and completely in love. I'm 99% sure that I'll marry my wonderful boyfriend. However, I'm also realistic. We are in no position to support ourselves financially. I'm still in college and living off my parents. He's graduated but his parents are still paying for a lot of his bills. Until we are financially ready for marriage (and for me, that includes being able to afford a beautiful engagement ring and the majority of our wedding) things will stay the way they are. I'd love to wake up next him every morning in our own apartment, but I also want it to last forever. Most marriages end on account of arguments over money. I don't want that to happen to us. We're going to wait until we can financially afford to be together.
Whatever you decide, good luck!
2007-01-10 13:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not at all to young to FEEL this. You are too young to ACT on it though. Being in love is a wonderful feeling and I'm so glad that you're experiencing it. But it isn't the only thing that makes a good marriage. I know several couples that were in love at your age that eventually married and one is still together over 60 years later, but I know a whole lot more people who thought they had met the right person and turned out to be mistaken.
The thing is that you both are going to grow vastly in ways that you can't predict over the next ten years. Things that are important to you right now may not be in 10 or 20 years. If he really is the right guy you guys will find a way to do what's right for both of you and what's right for the relationship.
The best thing you can do for your relationship right now is to relax and enjoy what he brings to your life without making him your life. It'll all work out.
2007-01-10 13:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Gretchen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are too young, and here is why. The personal changes that take place between the ages of 20 and 30 are just remarkable. In that timeframe you might go to college, get into a career, decide on the number of kids you'd want to have, if any, and decide on your own where it is you want to live. Between the changes that you'll experience and the changes that he'll experience, you'll be dealing with a lot of conflict in the not too distant future. Chances are neither of you will value the same things in the future that you did at the age you're at now.
You can always share your lives together, but doing so under the institution of marriage brings on challenges that you probably aren't ready to deal with yet.
2007-01-10 13:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off consider how long you've been dating, if it isn't at least a few years then yes you're too young. Also consider how you deal with each other, have you broken up before? Do you fight a lot? If you get merried you will have some fights sooner or later. I personally think you're a bit young yes, but my aunt got merried at 19 and shes only been merried to 1 guy, still is, so do what you truly feel in your heart, consult, your parents...
2007-01-10 13:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ferret 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is too young. If it is real love then you should be able to withstand a few years more of dating or engagement. It is so hard to hear but at 18, 19 and even into peoples early 20s, they are still figuring out who they are and what they want out of life. So wait a little and see if ultimately he is the one you want in life =)
2007-01-10 13:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by funlovingandcrazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny because I'm in almost the exact same position as you. I'm 18, my bf is 19... And I'm 100% sure he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. I haven't told him that yet, and he's dropped hints at it, but I can't tell whether or not he serious or joking. I'm so deeply in love with him that I can't even handle thinking about my future without him. I think that even though we're young, true love is something worth hanging on to, and we're lucky to have found it... Screw all those jealous people who don't know what it feels like to love and be loved. We're legal, and we're adults; we've found love, who cares that we're young, we should enjoy it while it lasts. Good luck!!!!!!
2007-01-10 13:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how ironic, you may not believe this but i am also 18 years old with a boyfriend who recently turned the age of 20 and we both feel the exact same way. i think it is great you two feel that way and feelings are never wrong, there is no action in feelings just... well emotions and thoughts, and with that being said, if you two do want to marry eachother that is fine, but are there things you want to do before marriage? such as, travel or college or if either you or him want to do something the other one doesn't? do you both have good credit etc.? these are things you have to think about also because although marriage is about those great and wonderful feelings they are also a contract thats expencive to get in an out of. not to make that change your feelings about the subject, but i would recommend not getting married for a few years or so, just to be sure but thats up to you. however, getting engaged is different. sometimes it takes years for people who are engaged to get married, and in that time you have the chance to bail out if you choose to do so. thats just somethin to think about. but yes, its okay to feel that for anyone at any age, love is unmistakable. good luck to you and your loved one!
2007-01-10 13:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by kera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you've been going together. But actually, I would wait a bit. Remember, like you said he's the first guy that never screwed you over, so naturally, you feel this is the love of your life. He may be. Time will tell.
2007-01-10 13:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your time as u continue to date this guy you will see and you will know if he is the one. you have a long way to go. I know some people that have been together since 10th grade and are now like in their late 20s and that is great but again it does not work for every one.
2007-01-10 13:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by Cessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date him for a few more years, until you are both financially stable and out of school, then think about marriage. If he really is the guy you are meant to be with forever, a couple of years won't make a difference.
2007-01-10 13:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋