My boyfriend and I have been going out for about eight months, and (for the most part) I'm the happiest I've ever been. I'm 100% sure that this is the guy I want to spend my life with. Except he doesn't do the small things; the little cute nothings that make girls go "awww!". He doesn't call me just to say hello or goodnight, he doesn't buy me flowers, or anything for that matter...(he did buy me a xmas present, but it was xmas for gosh sakes)he doesn't hold my hand in public unless I grab his hand first, he's cheap w/ his money & all he does is work on his truck 24-7. We've talked about the whole truck issue before, but just today he told me that he feels like i'm getting in the way of him working on his truck(what he loves to do); I agreed to spend some more time away cuz I don't want him to feel like I'm taking that away from him, but he went on to ask "am I..like, your only friend now?"; Although we don't spend much time together anyways cuz he works 24-7, he thinks we do... help!
2007-01-10 13:17:17 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Reading your question, it sounds like you are describing my husband to a T. because when we started going around, before deciding that we wanted to get Married, he was not the affectionate kind and he was always a little bit distant when showing affection. Nevertheless, we did get Married and have been for 48,going into 49 yrs. coming this June. But I would not recommend anyone to stay in this kind of relationship if they can't stand being the one that has to put into a relationship 24/7. I knew from the start what I was getting into, but, I loved my husband a lot and even though today he sometimes does not show any affection I tell him about that and he usually gives me a hug and a kiss. So, if you think you can give more than fifty/fifty into a relationship go for it, and I hope eventually he will change his ways. I forgot to add that my husband is a Mechanic, and works for our School district where we live.
2007-01-10 13:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn't do the little things you so clearly want? You're obviously not #1 in his life. He's cheap and he'd rather work on his truck than spend time with you. Are you okay with that? If you are, fine. Give him the elbow room he's asking for and go on being the "happiest you've ever been".
2007-01-10 20:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by Snowblower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...u already said that u love him...there are guys who dont do small aww things...do u really want those things and leave this guy who u love...things dont matter,the person and ur love matters...if u are very sure that he loves u too..then u dont need those things..there are compromises in every relationship...just get to know if he loves u too...i meant REALLY love u...u can do those things if u want..
2015-01-15 01:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Polly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋