The guy that I have been dating for long distance for 6 months said that he loves me and needs me. Then a few days later when I brought up our "relationship" he said that we can't have a relationship because we live too far away (five hour flight).
Then he got all irritable and said maybe when we move closer together in a few years. But then he said "I'm hanging up now, okay? I'm upset. We can talk in like a year." He also said that there are a lot of things that he didn't like about me (which he has never said before...it's like he was just saying that because he was upset).
I am so confused because just days ago he was telling me how much he loves me and can't wait for me to come out and visit him again, how he can't wait to give me my Christmas gift and what a great girl I am. Even in the same conversation that he said we aren't in a relationship he said "I love you" and told me how much fun I am to be with.
What is happening???
Does it sound like he is done with me?
2007-01-10 13:12:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WE HAVE MET IN PERSON MORE THAN ONCE AND MET BEFORE STARTING TO DATE...
2007-01-10 13:13:17 · update #1
Sounds like he's done....
You sound young though so move on...
(Long distance relationships are tough & usually don't last.)
2007-01-10 13:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds a lot like he is really frustrated with the situation and knowing there is nothing he can do about it only makes it tougher.
Living that far away can really put a strain on a relationship that is working well, let alone one that has barely gotten started.
I would certainly consider the reality of the situation and know that it may be for the best if you just let it go for a while and date some other guys and kind of get your head on straight.
I know you are confused and rightfully so, but long distance relationships sometimes work and sometimes they don't. This might well be one of the don'ts.
The next time you talk to him, I would just go right to the question and ask him it is over. If he is half a man, he will tell you the truth and you can move on and live your life accordingly.
2007-01-10 21:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Gnome 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really likes you, but is having trouble dealing with the pain of separation. You might want to have a heart to heart talk about where the relationship is headed right now. If it can't progress, it's hard to hang on to the relationship. Feelings grow, and he might want more togetherness, yet it hurts him that distance will not allow it. If you're serious about him, perhaps there is a way to close the distance gap?
2007-01-10 21:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's realizing that a long distance relationship won't work. Maybe he's found someone that loves in his area that he would really like to day or maybe it's his friends that are forcing the breakup. You really can't be sure because he won't tell you the truth because he's a guy (no offense to anyone). It sound like my most recent breakup. My boyfriend was telling me he loved me and called me the night after and told me it was over. It was his friends that made him break up with me. Guys are weird. I hope you can work something out. goodluck
2007-01-10 21:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by nagas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm tough one...Maybe he is trying to go easy in the 'dumping' process?...It sounds like he is telling you what you want to hear. (sorry!) Distance is a terrible thing but I believe that if you want to make it really REALLY work distance means nothing. And the relationship is only very young - 6 months isn't really a massive relationship. You sound like a lovely girl so maybe...its time to let him go? Good luck! My heart goes out to you....
2007-01-10 21:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by babyblues_752001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's using you for sex. I noticed that you visit him. Does he pay your way? If not, think twice about this "relationship". Guys like to throw around the I Love Yous but they don't always mean it.
2007-01-10 21:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find someone closer to home. Long distance doesn't really work. (trust me I know this to be true)
Just hang up the phone and let him be...he sounds like he can't make up his mind anyway..
2007-01-10 21:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationship, half of them are married, or jerking around. I do not take the to serous now. i have been there myself and was hurt like you. If I was you, stick to the area that you live in. or find some one genuine...
2007-01-10 21:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he has met someone who lives in his area and is more convenient to date. I'm sure he likes you alot, but you aren't there and guys can't make themselves wait for someone like that. If you lived there you guys would probably get on very well.
Good luck, I know your heart is broke. I've been there, it sucks!
2007-01-10 21:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by bamagirl12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty he sound like a loser to me
he change his mind from time to time
i encourage u to meet someone new
if u keep going to this old person, u guys will break up one day or even sooner
so y wasting ur time with this loser
2007-01-10 21:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋