The guys I have been with haven't told me straight out that they don't want to take me serious because of "certain" reasons. I mean, I know I did get "intimate" with them too soon or on the first date, but still I don't see that's big enough for them to disappear on me or give me another chance. I'ts not like men are angels anyways. I've never had a boyfriend in my life, and now that I actually want something serious no one wants nothing with me anymore. I don't know how to go back and change things because I know it will not happen, but I mean, why is it such a big deal for guys to know that a girl likes to have some "fun" as well...just like guys do....I wonder if I will get a chance with another guy ever again.?
2007-01-10 13:08:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im a be straight up a guy wants a ho at the moment but they don't want a relationship with one. they want someone they can trust and someone that's loyal and if you're out there having sex on the first date why would a guy want to have a relationship with you they probably think you're out there doing everybody and can't stay faithful. you may think you're not a ho but you're putting yourself in that situation...from now on make guys wait you don't have to have sex to have fun!
2007-01-10 13:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by lovey_chell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately in our society we have a double standard when it comes to promiscuity. Men are "studs" if they bang a lot of women a la Hugh Hefner, but women are considered "sluts" if they bang a lot of dudes. Pretty lousy if you ask me but it is a remnant of our former puritanical way of life. There is nothing you can do about this however, but widening your circle of friends will help. If you start being friends with people who do not know your reputation, then maybe you have a chance at being in a serious relationship.
Don't give it up on the first date! Wait three dates! Otherwise guys will think you are a whore. Also, listen to the Tom Leykis Show on 97.1 for more advice. 3-8 pm.
2007-01-10 21:17:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just stop sleeping with guys on the first night, why don't you just stop looking for a while and pick it up in a few months. Try to meet people where you would not normally meet. Not the clubs, those guys are mainly one night stands.
2007-01-10 21:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by cib0385 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they probably think that because you got intimate with them that soon, theres nothing to hold you back from getting intimate with another person. it's a trust issue.
2007-01-10 21:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by xeternal_heavnx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋