How do you get over the feeling of losing a baby?

Question

My wife was 2 months pregnant and lost the baby.

Answer 1

I don't think you ever get "over" it but time does make things better. You will always think of that baby and the what ifs.

Answer 2

I don't think you really ever do. I lost a baby at about 7 weeks and it was very painful. Time healed it and then my new pregnancy helped a lot. That happiness didn't last too long. My baby was born with a severe heart problem and after open heart surgery was very weak and got worse by the hour and we had to make the worst decision ever. To this day I wonder if we made the right choice. I think its something that's going to haunt me for the rest of my life. But, deep down inside I know it was for the best because he was still going to need 2 more open heart surgeries if he survived the first one. I know now that he's in a better place. It took almost exactly a year to accept everything. I would cry every night and I felt like it wasn't worth living anymore. I was so upset at GOD for not ansewering our prayers. Losing a baby is the worst thing in the world. Keeping busy really helped a lot. Also, my husband who was there for me 24/7 helped a lot. Friends are also very important. We hope to try again very soon and hopefully this time everything will go good. I wish you both the best and hope that soon you are blessed with another baby, It will not replace the one you've lost but it will bring you lots of happines. The pain will never entirely go away but with time you will feel better. Now, both of you have a little angel looking out for you. Best Wishes.

Answer 3

That is not something u ever get over. My friend lost her baby girl at 5 days old due to complications during birth and she gets sad everytime she thinks of her. I know your wife was 2 months pregnant only but the pain is the same when you are expecting a baby with every ounce of hope in you. Time will heal the pain of that loss and eventually you will accept that it wasnt meant to be. Maybe the baby was unhealthy, or something like that, then as it grew his/her condition would worsen giving you two more pain, cuz you would see your child in pain. I hope this helps somehow. Theres always the sweet possibility of getting pregnant again...good luck!

Answer 4

Time. Mourn the loss together. Pray. Also know that sometimes a miscarriage will occur because there was something terribly wrong. If it was a first pregnancy the body just may have been rehearsing. This happens to a lot of women. She did nothing wrong. Make sure she knows that. Wait about four months before you try again.
Remember, the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh. Blessed be the name of the Lord. In all things give thanks for this is the will of Christ concerning you.
God bless. I've said a prayer for both your healing and the blessing of a full term health baby the next time. God answers my prayers!

Answer 5

I am very sorry for you lose. I just lost my baby in Dec. I was also pregnant in May and lost that one. It is very very hard to deal with but I have learned that only time will heal your wounds. It has been 5 weeks and there isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about it. My only advice is to be there for her and talk to her about the lose. Dont let her go through this alone.

Answer 6

I had a miscarriage at 5 1/2 weeks. I think my husband actually took it worse than I did. For some people, the best thing is to try again. I hate statistics but losses are common - everyone comes out of the closet when you tell them it seems. Others who have gone through this may help in getting over it too. Just take your time and know that it just wasn't meant to be this time.

Answer 7

You won't be able to just get over it. WE lost our daughter to SIDS when she was just 2 1/2 months old and that was in November 2005 and we still have not got over losing her and I'm sure we never will. It is okay to feel what ever way you want. As times goes on it will be a LITTLE easier for your family but it will take a while. You are in my prayers!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I don't believe you get over the feeling of loss especially of your child or a family member but over time you accept the loss and the pain begins to subside. I think sometimes it helps if you believe that everything happens for a reason and know when it is meant to be you and your wife will have a child. My deepest sympathies to you both.

Answer 9

I'm sorry for your loss.It is next to impossible to get over it , but as time passes you learn to live with it an to understand that though not fair in any way, it is very common and a loss that many people around you are both suffering and living through also.

God bless you ,your wife, and that beautiful unborn soul.

Answer 10

That is a question no one will be able to answer !!!!! no body knows like you do you should take time to grieve for your loss but you can never know what might have been there was a certain reason god took that precious child from you! and you'll only know that when you get there and will see your child in a whole new way that's not imaginable

Answer 11

Healing takes time, both physically and emotionally. Each day she has to learn how to go through that day, and to cope with all the emotions that she encounters. You do, too. Everyone heals differently. She may find that taking on a new hobby might help her to lessen the blow, or she might like to talk to someone or keep her thoughts in a journal. Be supportive of her. You don't ever get over it, you just get through it one day at a time. Good luck.