2007-01-10 12:51:09 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like your married. For some its a good thing, for others its not.
2007-01-10 12:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lived with my now fiance for a little over 5 years now, what made it hard in the beginning was the fact that we didn't know each other really well before living together.
But regardless how long you have known each other, it will still be like a new beginning once you move in since the both of you will learn new things about each other.
It can either strengthen your relationship, or break it. Some would say it's a bad idea, while others would say that it's ok.
Only you can decide what your heart desires and if you truly feel you are ready.
2007-01-10 20:56:08 · answer #2 · answered by !?! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly disagree with those who say couples should not live together before marriage. That's how you really get to know your boyfriend, because many things do not come to the surface if you only meet a couple of times a week. Then when you realize he is not that perfect (nobody is), you'll have to decide whether you can live with his imperfections or not. You really only get to know each other if you eat together, shop together, sleep together, watch TV together, and hopefully not get bored together.
Just imagine if you got married without knowing what it's like to live together and you do get bored like hell, as one poster above said. A divorce is certainly more complicated and unethic than a peaceful break-up because both of you admit that you are not compatible with each other.
And sorry, sweetgurl13069 (just below), but that's not how married couples live. One of the things that causes problems most often is money. That's one of the most important aspects of living together. You have to share what you have. What I always tell my girlfriend (jokingly, of course) is "your things are my things, and my things are........also my things".
2007-01-10 21:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by harakiri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be comfortable and normal. There is probably going to be some weirdness/awkwardness at first while you two get used to living together, but once that subsides life should just be normal except that now you're sharing it with someone else.
2007-01-10 20:57:27 · answer #4 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on the couple.. some couple can live together fine.. some can't and some are better when living together than they are when married.
FYI to the person who says they'll break up eventually.. 50% get married and 50% break up.. so what? Probably prevented more divorce.. seeing how divorce rates are at about 60% nowadays.
2007-01-10 20:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon X 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how life should be like, but I know how life is for me. I have been living with my boyfriend for 13 years, we have our ups and downs, just like a married couple.
We split the chores, and the household bills, and if either one of us want something extra, we pay for that ourselves.
2007-01-10 21:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SHOULD BE LIKE YOUR MARRIED. BOTH OF YOU SHOULD BE WORKING SO YOU BOTH COULD PAY THE BILLS EQUALLY. SHARE BUYING THE FOOD, CAUSE BOTH
OF YOU NEED TO EAT. SHARE CLEANING THE APT. OR THE
HOUSE CHORE'S, BECAUSE BOTH OF YOU BOTH LIVE THERE. F**F THIS I WORK LONGER HOURS, YOU BOTH WORK OR IT IS A GIRLS JOB, HELL NO HE LIVES THERE TOO. REMEMBER HE DOES NOT LIVE WITH HIS MAMA. IF
THAT WAS THE CASE THEN HE NEEDS TO GO BACK TO
HIS MAMA. YOUR BETTER OFF LIVING ALONE. AS LONG
AS BOTH OF YOU DO THE THINGS TOGETHER LIKE A COUPLE THEN EVERYTHING SHOULD BE OKAY. ALSO
REMEMBER HIS FRIENDS NEEDS TO RESPECT YOU AND
YOUR PLACE IS NOT A PARTY PLACE AND YOUR FRIENDS
NEEDS TO RESPECT HIM AS WELL IT IS NOT A HANG OUT,
ALTHOUGH BOTH OF YOU CAN AGREE ON A ONCE IN A
WHILE KICK BACK HANG OUT WITH SOME FRIENDS THAT
YOU BOTH AGREE. AND THAT PRETTY MUCH COVERS
EVERYTHING. OH YEAH YOU HAVE TO BE 18+ AND HAVE
A JOB TO SUPPORT YOURSELF AND IS ABLE TO KEEP YOUR PLACE AND IS ABLE TO PAY YOUR BILLS AND HAVE
MONEY TO BUY FOOD AND MONEY LEFT OVER TO HAVE
FOR YOURSELVES. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-10 21:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it should be the same as if you were married. THey will not have as much time for you and all you will get done is cleaning up after them and trying to figure out where all the money is. Romance goes out the door after you live with someone or get married. It is usually only good for about 6 months.
2007-01-10 20:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by hotviki28 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There should be respect, honesty, being faithful, a division of responsibility, etc.
Pretty much like being married.....except it's not legal.
Make sure before you guys shut the door behind you, you've done a lot of talking and there should be a lot of decisions made.
2007-01-10 20:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really depends on the couple...but for most it is like a marriage...it should be pleasant, where u both share in doing everything...from bills to cleaning and cooking (if u both cook)..u will fight sometimes(all couples do) but for the most part u will be happy because u love and respect each other...remember u shouldn't feel like u have a room mate..u should feel like u have e partner.
2007-01-10 20:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by eyesopen16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you'l be living in a relationship that has rejected unconditional love, because you've already said that whether or not you can love the person enough to marry them is based on the condition of whether or not you can live with them. Love is a choice, not a test
2007-01-10 20:55:41 · answer #11 · answered by oldrallychick 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋